I think I can speak for pretty much everyone involved with She Might Be, when I say that yes, of course we all wanted to be part of this amazing online plus size magazine. All the latest fashion and beauty, amazing body positivity, fat politics and a range of issues and ideas that are so very relevant to each and every one of us.
But more than this, I think we all felt that this was needed. There is literally nowhere, either online or in the real world (and yes, for a lot of people the internet is the real world) where plus size women are allowed to be at ease in their own skin.
We needed a safe space. Where no one would try and sell you happiness by dragging you down in the first place. Where it is okay – more than okay – celebrated – to be who you are and to exist in your body.
It’s hard enough to love yourself when the whole world is intent on telling you that you are wrong for doing so – we will only ever support you in your journey to self acceptance and hopefully self love.
This is a very safe space. Apart from right here in this list of things we won’t do, you will never see us talking about diets, about food, about health & exercise, about shape wear, about flattering, about changing anything about yourself for the sake of someone else’s opinion. (Change on your own terms is a different matter entirely).
We believe all of that is your prerogative, your choice because that’s your body and this is your life. We know only too well how insidious these things are, when they pop up everywhere – billboards, magazines, TV ads – even amongst friends, family and colleagues. We are constantly under siege – bombarded.
You have been conditioned to think there is something wrong with you – or maybe, that there is something wrong with thinner women, who make different choices. It seems like the entire world is hating on womens’ bodies and here is where it stops.
Here are some thoughts from some of our writers on why She Might Be is important to them:
Georgina Grogan: I really feel that She Might Be, a completely body positive space, is SO needed on the internet. There are lots of magazine, blogs, spaces on the internet for fat women, but I can’t name one of them that hasn’t talked about making yourself look slimmer, dieting, weight loss, or something else that contributes to the hate women and men have for themselves. Despite being mainly plus size, we would never bash a straight size person.
Sera McDaid: I think She Might Be was a space desperately needed to encourage women of all sizes to come together. As someone who has been a size 32 to a size 12 and now a 16 and just about every size in between, I’ve always felt I was wrong or not represented. At the smaller scale at a 16 I feel vilified sometimes if I chat about plus size and when I was a size 32 I wasn’t catered for or represented online at all. It also promotes real life body shapes, which I think is important. Basically it’s a space where nobody is left out or excluded. I love that. I do think it’s a good move to ban talk of diets or eating plans. There is enough of that everywhere you turn. The USP of SMB is that it focuses solely on everything else and your size doesn’t come into it. Hugely positive area. It was needed I think. Size has nothing to do with anything and it’s a huge positive move forward to create a space that is active in showing exactly that and showing it by omission. Size doesn’t need to be debated, it’s simply your body. I think it’s a powerful point made by not making it.
Sophie Griffiths: The media makes plenty of money out of telling women to hate themselves – and that is not a plus exclusive issue. You can look on any magazine rack and be criticised on a personal level while picking other ladies apart. SMB is different. It’s about self love, not self hate. There is no need to talk about diets or numbers because there are so many places that are just FOR that, which means there is no risk of anybody being hurt by those kinds of conversations. Being able to maintain that difference while supporting others on every stage of their journey to body positivity (and that includes those still intent on changing, not loving, themselves) is really quite special.
Katt Martin: SMB for me, is finally that safe space filled with true body positivity. Where I won’t be hounded by images that put others down to raise ourselves, where I don’t have to worry about an article or person writing about how my body isn’t good enough or that I need to change to be TRULY happy, where I know every writer there has gone through everything I have gone through, that it’s full of sisterhood and love. And that’s why SMB is so important, to spread the word that you’re loved, your body is good enough, you life is good enough and you don’t have to change a single thing if you don’t want to. It’s that safe space for all plus size women and men, where they can go to finally relax away from a world that shoves diets, how to “flatter” or “disguise” their so- called flaws, down their throats and just be happy!
Zoe IKIWN: To be fair, you can go literally ANYWHERE ELSE to see, hear, experience talk about diets / weight loss / slimming etc and to know there is somewhere you can read about fashion, beauty and lifestyle (even the odd bit of history!) without having to keep your guard up is a bloody relief!
That’s why we are here. This is a safe space where we can all be ourselves – we are all entitled to live happily in our own skin. She Might Be will never make anyone feel like that’s not enough. We are all enough.