Now that my children are 6 and 13, I suppose you could say I’m an old hat at this mothering lark. Realistically, we’re all making it up as we go along. But there’s something so scary about those first months as a Mum. You’re constantly questioning whether or not you’re doing the right thing. I’m looking back to my first year as a Mum, and thinking about what I know now – and what I wish I’d known then.
Nobody cares if their socks match
I wasted so many hours making sure my kids look ‘put together’, and it was honestly unnecessary. As long as they are clean, why would it matter if your kid is wearing matching socks? They’re there to serve as a lining between foot and shoe. They are covered by shoes and trousers anyway. Now, my six year old’s socks never match. It’s become his little quirk.
The car is your best friend
I cannot express my love for long car journeys. Need to cheer your kid up after a long day? Belt out a couple of Disney songs together in the car. Running late and no time to give them breakfast? Snacks in the car, hello! They’re also incredibly useful for newborns. The Baby Driver study informs that 52% of first time parents admitted that they would go for a long drive with the sole purpose of soothing a child, with no destination in mind. They’d go as far as to argue that a car should be considered a baby product – and we can see why!
Soak up the cuddles
Every so often it hits me that there will be a ‘last time’ that my children want to curl up for a cuddle, and that breaks my heart. I wish I’d known that there is no time limit on cuddles, and not tried to rush through life so much.
Confidence is key
In all aspects of parenting, you have to fake it til you make it. Parenting is hard, but the key is to pretend you know what you’re doing. It’s so easy to let worry get in the way as a new Mum: for example, women are twice as likely as men to worry about getting lost, while younger women also worried about being involved in a crash with the baby in the car. Yet the majority of young Mums use a car every day. It’s time to stop letting anxiety get in the way of being a happy Mum!