If you are in the throes of planning for your big day, the chances are that you are feeling a mixture of trepidation, excitement, and nerves. You have a list as long as your arm, you’re worried about pleasing all of your guests, you need to think about dietary requirements, cultural sensitivities, seating plans, and the nitty gritty details. However, all you want to do is bask in the joy of knowing that you will be committing yourself to the person you love for the rest of your lives.
It can be difficult to prioritize your big day and plan accordingly. You could splash the cash and hire someone else to take the reins, but the chances are that your special day won’t be as personal and bespoke as you might like. You need to consider those special non-negotiables that you have always dreamt of for your big day. However small or insignificant they may seem to others, they may make or break your big day. If you want to fly in and make an entrance in a helicopter, arrange it. If you want a specific type of flower for your bouquet, order it. Remember, this is your day, and you can afford to be a little selfish once in a while.
If you are looking for some pointers as to how to plan your big day, take a look at this guide to help you see the matrimonial wood for the trees.
Before you even consider your wedding day, you should put the celebratory wheels in motion with an engagement party. This announces to your family and friends of your intention to get hitched and is also a great excuse for a shindig.
At your engagement party, you might want to be showing off your bling. Depending on how postmodern you are a a couple, you may have chosen rings together, and you both might be wearing them! There are plenty of jewelers out there, but it might be novel to push the boat out and opt for a fairtrade design. Trilogy and solitaire rings will make up most of the styles you check out. The quality of Ingle & Rhode rings gives clients peace of mind that their diamonds are ethically sourced and fully traceable; perfect for the most environmentally friendly bride.
While getting married in a religious establishment is still seen as the ideal wedding venue, especially amongst older relatives, you might have other plans. This is your day, so you need to follow your heart without worrying too much about upsetting others. Frankly, they will get over it. Consider your personality as a couple. Are you renowned for being movie buffs? If your first date was at an old school picture house, consider getting hitched there. There are a readily made aisle and a screen to put up a slideshow of your most romantic (and embarrassing) moments as a couple. The seating arrangement is already in place, and you might even be able to locate the exact screen where you had your first movie date.
If you are more into the outdoors and love nothing more than heading out for walks on a weekend morning or venturing to the beach on a sunny day, why not get married in the great outdoors. Au natural weddings are becoming incredibly popular as couples choose to shun the traditional for a more relaxed affair. Your dress code could be relaxed, less top and tails and more Hawaiian shirt and shorts. Creating a theme for your big day makes it memorable and gives you the freedom to express yourselves. Everyone has been to a wedding with a formal church service, a hotel sit down wedding breakfast and a cheesy DJ for evening entertainment. You could break the mould and opt for something entirely different. How does a relaxed beach wedding sound, followed by a private beach barbecue and a live tropical steel pan band serenading your guests until the small hours?
Your choice of venue doesn’t have to be a church or hotel. There are so many more options for you to explore.
There is always someone at a wedding who either doesn’t know anybody else or who has had a falling out with somebody else. This can add untold worry to your day as you want to ensure that this individual enjoys the day, doesn’t feel isolated or doesn’t run into the person that they don’t really get along with.
Rather than allowing this to become a constant cause for concern on the day and stopping you from enjoying your wedding to the full, you need to allocate this guest to your maid of honor. She is there to help you on your big day, so will be more than ready to take up the mantle. A seating plan can be an excellent way to ensure no fracas or stress when it comes to organizing your attendees. Some couples find compiling the guest list itself a stressful affair. Aunt Joan who you’ve never met but that your mum has promised an invite to might just have to come.
While this is your day, you still want to ensure that your guests enjoy themselves. Ensure that the drinks remain flowing and that all dietary considerations are accounted for. Vegetarians, vegans, and people needing gluten free meals should be catered for by the people sorting out your wedding breakfast. Go for something that isn’t too divisive. A blue cheese souffle with a wild mushroom sauce might see a lot of half eaten plates at the end of the starter. Play it simple with chicken, potato, and chocolate or fruit dishes. The simplest food option is often the best. You don’t always have to succumb to the in-house catering team. If you get married outdoors, you might want to arrange your own cuisine for your guests.
There is such an array of different photography styles for wedding nowadays that it can be difficult to decide which style will suit you. Head to wedding fairs if you have time and look through the books of a photographer or two. Some specialize in black and white and documentary style shots. These are more candid and less formal. Shots are rarely posed and aim to capture a more realistic impression of the day. Many people choose this style as it won’t ever age or look old hat.
For those couples who still want the formal posed shots outside of the church, there are plenty of photographers willing to offer this. You might even want to save your pennies and secure the services of a well-qualified semi-professional friend. Just be certain that you have seen their work. You only have your big day once, and if you don’t like the visual record of your day, it might leave a sour taste in your mouth.
Getting married is a lifelong commitment that no one enters into flippantly. You want your big day to be perfect. While this might be a little ambitious, you can be sure of it being as stress-free as possible if you follow this guide and get your maid of honour on board with your plans. Get your to-do list written and start working through the organization of your day. Don’t forget the little things. Flowers, wedding favours, the cake and your outfit sound like minor details but they can make or break your big day. Congratulations and good luck with the best day of your life!