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*Before you read this post, please note it will make note of diet talk and weight loss, but very much in the way that you shouldn’t buy into these, and how to survive in a culture where they are prominent. However, should that talk not be for you, we have so many more fabulous posts for you to read while you’re here*
Weight-loss talk is everywhere isn’t it? This is why I relish publications like She Might Be for giving me a break from it, and why I love the chance to be involved in something so important. That said, as much as my social media is very much a haven away from the fat bashing that main stream media offers, I know that avoiding this talk all of the the time is not always possible!
For some reason offices seem to be a breeding ground for weight loss talk and the encouragement of others to restrict what they’re eating. As someone who actively avoids diet culture this can sometimes feel awkward or upsetting. I wanted to let you know – it can be survived!
You Don’t Have To Lose Weight
One of the biggest things you need to remember is that you do not NEED to lose weight. What people do with their own bodies is their own business and the same goes for you. Just because groups of people around you are choosing to change their body that doesn’t mean you have to. Yes, if you want to be supportive of them that is fine, but never feel as though you are pressured to join in with their choices.
You Are The Only Person Who Lives In Your Body
This rule really does go for everyone – you are the only person who has to live in your body – so you get to chose what you do with it. Try to remember, that this goes for other people too! If someone wants to change their body, that is okay! If someone talks badly about their own body, this is simply their thoughts on their OWN body and not a reflection of how they feel about yours.
I know, sometimes hearing how fat and horrible someone else feels can make me wonder what they think of my body. This is especially hard as I am inevitably larger than they are. However, I have to remind myself that I don’t live in their body, and so I don’t know how they feel about it – and if they feel that way about their own body, I’m not really in a position to change their mind.
Say Your Piece, Or Don’t
It is really easy for me to say that you should tell people to shut up and that you don’t want to listen to it, but I know it’s easier said than done. I am lucky in that most people know I’m a plus size blogger, so realise that diet talk doesn’t interest me. I don’t get asked when I’ll be doing the same, or if I want to go to the gym etc. If you feel brave enough then usually a couple of times reiterating that you’re not interested in losing weight, or that you’re happy that they go to the gym but you have no interest in making your body smaller will ensure people know where you stand and will stop inviting you along. However, if you’re not ready for that level of confrontation that’s okay too – just simply decline their invites and they’ll soon get bored of asking you!
Counteract Diet Talk
Let’s be honest, diet talk is unavoidable so we’re always going to be in a position where we have to listen to this sometimes. So outside of work, I make sure that my media is as fat positive as possible. I have an Instagram full of body positive influences, a Twitter packed with fat bloggers and of course, places such as She Might Be where I can read some amazing content.
The truth is that we all have to find our own ways to survive and work out what gets us through. Just remember that your worth is NEVER based on the size of your body and that you are NEVER obligated to change the way you look. You are brilliant, amazing and valid just the way you are. Someone else changing their own body is no reflection on you – carry on being as fat and brilliant as you are. I know I will be!