Solo Valentine’s Day

Michelle Hopewell

Michelle Hopewell

Actor/Writer at Funemployment
Black British, faith filled, curvy actress with a love for food, great music, good movies, life changing literature and awkward moments.
Michelle Hopewell

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The Look Of Looooooooveeee is in your OWN eyes boo. You don’t need anyone to look at you with love, you can do that all by yourself and you know why because you are a majestic warrior!

Now that I’ve made that fact absolutely clear, let’s talk about Valentine’s Day. Woah, when on earth did that arrive? I feel like we just did it, but you know what? It’s cool, celebrating love, even if it is for the sake of marketing and retailers to consume more of our coin and make corporations richer, an opportunity to celebrate love is celebrating love nonetheless.

solo valentine's day

Except I hate how Valentine’s Day only focuses on one specific kind of love. Romantic. That’s so unfair because there are so many different kinds of love that keep this world turning. We should celebrate all the kinds of love we experience in this world and one of those is the love we learn to give ourselves.
Therefore whether or not you are single or in a relationship this Valentine’s Day, here are ways you can still celebrate the love you give yourself.

Hang Out

Okay for some of us it can be a super triggering or an emotional day or period or sometimes we just don’t like spending time by ourselves. That’s chill too. If being alone is too much arrange to hang out with your friends! Make a night of it or just stay home or chill, but don’t be afraid to reach out and spend some time celebrating the love you have for your friends! Tell each other all the things you love about each other and give each other positive affirmations to take into the rest of their week.

Treat Yo-Self

I mean I do this particular thing all the time, which is probably a problem, but I’m going to say it’s not. HA. Seriously, this has been a mad dash couple of months already, so use this as an opportunity to check in with yourself, where you’re at and do something that makes you really happy!

Take Yourself Out

There is no rule saying you can’t do everything you would do on a romantic night out, with yourself baby! Book the table, buy the dress and head out to your favourite spot to have a slap up meal. Wine and dine yourself. You don’t need to earn this just like you don’t need to earn a treat. It’s okay to be good to yourself. You are so worthy and beautiful my friend, so just take yourself on the date!

Dodge It

I know multiple people that ditch the day altogether. They don’t feel the need to buy into the day or even acknowledge it, and you know what? That is so okay. Make it a normal day and do what you would do anyway. You should never feel pressured to be part of something that you don’t want to be party to.


If you are scared that the whole thing is going to be a bit of a downer but you want to do your best to bring light into the day, then why not take the day to intentionally practise gratitude. Set intentions for the day and spend as much energy as you can on shifting your thoughts from the negative into the positive. Do what you can to stay present instead of slipping into the past, but most of all be appreciative that you are here right now and even if you don’t have someone present to do something special or say that they love you, I promise, you are loved.

So no matter what you’re Valentine’s Day is going to look like in 2019, know that you are enough my dear.



Michelle Hopewell
Michelle Hopewell

Black British, faith filled, curvy actress with a love for food, great music, good movies, life changing literature and awkward moments.

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