I am a tattooed, slightly sweary, vegetarian, home educating, French Bulldog owning Mama to four gorgeous children, the eldest of whom has an extremely complex, life limiting medical condition. I have been married to my very best friend for nine years and I am a huge BoPo advocate. I have a burgeoning love affair with gin, although I regularly cheat on it with a fine cider.
I have four gorgeous children who all call me Mama! Three girls and a boy.
I’m also fat!
Neither of these things define me as a person, although society will, of course, tell you otherwise!
Living life as a plus size Mama, the thing I am most aware of is raising my children to be unapologetic for their bodies. Raising strong girls who embrace themselves for the, quite frankly, wonderful beings they are. Who understand that their bodies are amazing and strong and downright awesome no matter how they look. Raising a boy who is respectful and knows that his body too is strong and awesome! But most importantly raising them to know that what matters most is not how they look or the body they reside in but what they think, what they say and what they do! Those are the things that make them who they are, not a societal standard of how they should look, what they should wear or who they should be.
I remember the first time my children heard someone refer to me as fat, and they leapt to my defence! I told them there was no need, I do indeed have fat, I also have beautiful brown hair, I have the greenest of green eyes, I have awesome tattoos, I am kind, I am kickass and I give The Best cuddles and all together those are just some of the things that make me who I am! Fat is not an insult but a statement of fact. It took me over twenty years to realise that so hopefully I am giving them a head start in letting them know from the off!
Raising strong children, with strong minds and strong values is hard work, really hard work at times but I’m hoping it will pay off in twenty years or so when those strong children become strong adults who are World Changers! In the meantime, could someone pass the gin!
Are you a plus size mama too? Share below how you get your children to accept all bodies!