Ah, Valentine’s Day. The plucked out of nothing celebration of love is approaching, and whether you’re in a relationship or not, it’s pretty hard to ignore with the explosion of reds, pinks, hearts and 3D cards. But is such a day really necessary?
These aren’t the bitter rantings of a single woman, I promise, as even when in a relationship I made a point not to celebrate Valentine’s Day. It has always felt quite hollow to me as I feel love should be celebrated everyday, not just on calendar scheduled days. With each passing year there is added pressure, whether self inflicted or not, to show not just your partner, but the entire world that your love is at a height no-one else can match; that your love is indescribable and that Valentine’s Day in particular fills you with unrelenting joy.
Now, don’t get me wrong, I don’t begrudge people loving each other and expressing that love in any way they see fit, but for me, love doesn’t need to be showy. It doesn’t need IG likes and Twitter RT’s as being with your love, and having your love know how you feel about them, should be the only thing that matters.
It’s an old saying, but life is far too short to waste time proving yourself or your relationship to anyone, and life is certainly too short to only reserve showing the person (or persons) you love for a single day in the calendar. So those in relationships: celebrate or don’t celebrate, but make sure whatever you do is what you want to do, not what others expect from you. If that means just sitting in front of the telly with a pizza, so be it! Your relationship doesn’t need to be defined by anyone but you and your love.
Singles are the much forgotten bunch on Valentine’s Day and the sympathetic eye from a friend in a relationship can often feel like a slap in the face. There isn’t a day for singles is there? Instead we’re made to feel like lost souls who should be trawling the streets for someone to marry just so we’re not single shamed next year! Well, fear not because I have a few words for my fellow singles: Here’s to you! Here’s to you for not still being with that loser. Here’s to you for getting out that abusive relationship. Here’s to you for not marrying that moron. Here’s to you for refusing to accept anything less than you deserve, and instead, for waiting out for that special someone whom you’ll want to share your days with, celebratory or not. Here’s to you for choosing to love yourself first!
Love is a great thing, but love between couples isn’t the only love around. Whether you’re in a relationship or not, tell someone how much they mean to you. We can often live in our own bubble, succumbing to our own woes while forgetting the support group around us whom might like to hear they’re making a difference. Showing appreciation is taken for granted but it’s so important, particularly in these uncertain times, to tell those in your life that you adore them.
So however you spend V-Day, and whomever you spend it with, don’t forget to spread the love!