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As a single, 35 year old fat woman it is safe to say I have my own fair share of experiences with online dating. Thanks to the growth in popularity of social media, we’re now using dating websites more than ever. I remember when I was much younger people would often be ashamed to say that they had met online and would want to fabricate meeting stories to tell other people.
In 2018 we’re much more open minded when it comes to dating online so this is less likely to happen. I have some fantastic online dating stories, and of course some interesting ones – so you do need to go in with open eyes and an open mind, but ultimately what do you have to lose?
Choosing a Website To Join
When it comes to meeting new people I’ve probably tried every online dating website going, and I like that there is a mixture of websites out there – so there is something for everyone. I am probably more a Plenty of Fish dater than I am a Tinder user, but the fact there is something for all types of dating is really good. I have to be honest and say that I lean more towards plus size dating websites for myself, but I realise that is very much a personal preference. I’m very happy to date someone that likes my body, because I like it – so joining a website geared towards those with a preference for fat bodies suits me. That said, I realise that this isn’t for everyone – the good thing about there being so many online dating choices is that there is something for everyone, no matter the type of dating you want to do.
Setting Up a Profile
Personally, in my profile I mention a couple of times my size and make sure that I have full length photos. That isn’t to put people off as such, but at the end of the day the size of my body isn’t something that can be avoided so I want to make sure anyone going on a date with me, knows what they are getting in to. I’m not ashamed of my body, so I definitely don’t want to get into dating someone that may be – so I set the tone of this from the start.
Getting Out There
One of the best parts of online dating for me is getting out there and meeting new people. A couple of drinks with a new person to make conversation with can make for a fun evening. Of course, always be safe – tell someone where you are going, when you are home etc. If I am totally honest I always plan an escape route too. This isn’t because I think I will feel unsafe, but I need to know if I want to leave I can. If we’re doing dating confessions then yes! I have been that person that goes to the toilet on a date and not come back. In my defence, I was much younger then and I wouldn’t do that now.
It is easy to get through online dating, you just have to be prepared to sift through lots of nonsense, and possibly rude messages. You’ll get offers of casual sex on a regular basis and people who won’t take no for an answer. However, what you’ll also get if you invest some time in it is some fun dates and the possibility of meeting your future significant other – why wouldn’t you give it a go?