Don’t Flatter Me – Or These Babes!

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Sophie Griffiths

Creator at Rymermade
Lifestyle and home education blogger at Wildling Wishes, main contributor and editor for She Might Be, draws pictures for money at Rymermade on Etsy.
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One thing that fat people are being told over and over again is that they need to be ‘flattered’. They need to stand in a certain way to elongate this, and stretch that. They need to wear something that makes their waists look smaller and their stomachs look flat. Christ, even the lighting we use and the haircuts we have can be described as ‘flattering’ or ‘unflattering’. Using the word ‘flatter’ means telling somebody that you find them easier to handle all of a sudden, and this serves as a constant reminder to fat people that their bodies don’t meet certain standards and that they should be striving for something different. Something which will flatter them.

I had a look around on instagram for some women who were actively breaking those rules. Women who didn’t place their hands on their hips to subconsciously hide parts of their stomachs. Women who didn’t wear dresses which were smallest right under the boobs. It was tricky: trust me when I tell you that I am guilty of trying to flatter myself too. I preach about not standing in a ‘flattering’ way but I do it. I preach about not wearing clothes because they flatter you, but I wear them. It’s so easy to just be socially acceptable – and, let’s face it, more palatable – and not rock the boat. So here’s to the women who are breaking the rules. Trolls are more likely to pick up on the strong women who are confident and proud of themselves, and I wanted to take a moment to stand up and applaud the middle fingers that these women are sticking up. Do not flatter me – I am perfect as I am, and I am going to continue to be me. Taking note from these ladies and refusing to ‘flatter’ themselves is step number one for loving yourself.


Rockabilly 🎸

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Fun Fact – Your body looks different depending on how you pose. Wanna know the saddest part about these pictures? I was scared to share them. I asked myself if I was really going to post my untoned tummy, dimpled thighs and stretch marks in a world that is fixed on telling me I’m not allowed to. I doubted it for a while but soon my fear was overshadowed by joy and conviction. Heck yes, I was going to post them! Problem areas are nothing more than another societal construction to reduce us to flawed objects that need to be fixed. So here’s my lumpy, bumpy, cellulite, back roll loving unedited imperfection in all it’s glory. Here’s to reality and hoping that we start to see more of it. β™₯️✨ Tagged you’ll find a bunch of awesome ladies that have helped and taught me so much by simply being unapologetically themselves! Go check them out! πŸ’•

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Not today Monday, not today.

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Letting it all hang out. This is my body, my menstrual body, but my body nevertheless. I think you can tell from the look on my face there are no fucks given. You know what’s exhausting? Giving a shit what other people think. Caring about all the ‘rules’ about what fat people can wear. Wondering if troll bastards are going to have a dig because they say I’m going to die before I’m 40. (I’m 42 so get fucked). All of this shit fat people carry around with us is heavier than our bodies. Let’s remember some things to lift us, not drag us down. We are entitled to live lives free of hatred, stigma, abuse and ridicule. If people choose to do those things it’s on them, not us. Remember you’re worthy and loveable whatever you look like. Anyone who tries to strip away your humanity and treat you as less than them because they don’t like the way you look is a complete scumbag.

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To the thin woman who loudly proclaimed to her mom yesterday in Torrid that “OH, Here is a size 14. Finally a normal size” FUCK YOU. (Note: they were shopping for the mother) @Torridfashion this is exactly the dialogue you have opened up in a place where we used to feel safe shopping. Not only has your business model extended sizes down to a size that can practically shop anywhere, but your store RUNS OUT OF STOCK on #fatty sizes. I heard “oh, we are out but can order that online and ship to store for you” on 7 items yesterday. Also, NO size 30’s or 5/6 in store. I am not that size, but after failing to find many size 22/24 and 3/4, I got curious. . So. Your business was built on fatties. It was built on the fact we didn’t have anywhere to shop for trendy clothes in a brick and mortar location. Now, there are racks upon racks of size 10-14 00/0 clothes and the sizes you have made millions of money on aren’t even available in store. Thank you for the 4 in store options for my bra size though. πŸ™„ And yes I’m wearing a comfy spanx. My choice. Fuck your opinion. #fatbabe #fatbabepower #fatgirlroyalty #fatty #fattymagoo #plussize #plus #bodypositive #tattoo #tattoos #tat #tattooedgirlsofig #tattooedbabe #fatacceptance #plussizefashion #fatshion #fashion #torridfashion #torridinsider #nobodyshame

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Yellow hair !! I’m so happyπŸŒ› I have been eyeing of this colour for months but kept putting it off then last week I thought ‘stuff it’ I’m going Yellow ‘it’s such a fun colour’ I used Fudge Paintbox in Gold Cost I’ll do a review in a few washes . What are use cats up to today? I have today off so me and the boys are chilling out enjoying the start of the school holidays watch some flicks eat some pizza and chill out .. . πŸ‘ŒπŸ» . . . . . [ thank you my adorable hubby for always taking my pics his so patient with my #outfat photos @djb80s 😘 ] . . #plussizerockchic #effyourbeautystandards #plussizefashion #plussizeblogger #plusfashion #plussizeclothing #plussizestyle #plussize #bodypositive #alternativecurves #psblogger #psootd #psfashion #fatbabe #fatshion #celebratemysize #goldenconfidence #beautyatanysize #vbo #fuckflattering #bodyacceptance #blogger #bloggerbabe #bloggervibes #bloggerstyle #losehatenotweight ..

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I wish I could model full time 😭

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Sophie Griffiths
Sophie Griffiths

Lifestyle and home education blogger at Wildling Wishes, main contributor and editor for She Might Be, draws pictures for money at Rymermade on Etsy.

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