Lifestyle and home education blogger at Wildling Wishes, main contributor and editor for She Might Be, draws pictures for money at Rymermade on Etsy.
Lifestyle and home education blogger at Wildling Wishes, main contributor and editor for She Might Be, draws pictures for money at Rymermade on Etsy.
Trigger warning: this post will include mention of diets and eating disorders. This is in keeping with the general tone of the piece and does not promote diet or weight loss, but please proceed with caution.
Children are our future – preach it, Whitney! – and in order to create stable, self-loving humans who are going to carry our world forwards in positive ways, we need to begin to lead by example today. Studies have shown that children as young as five years old are suffering with concerns over their body image, while many seven year olds have already tried to change their eating patterns in order to alter their own bodies. This is unacceptable. As the people who taught them how to walk, talk and tie their shoes, I say its time we stand up and teach them something infinitely important: how to love themselves as much as we love them.
Firstly, unless you are a trained nutrition you are not qualified to decide to put your child on a diet. While you can be quite familiar with the modus operandi of dieting as a fully-grown adult, you do not know which vitamins your child needs and at which particular times. For example, children who are going through a growth-spurt may need vital nutrients that you have just cut from their repertoire. I know a woman who cut meat and carbs from her own diet, and decided to do the same to her 11-year-old daughter because she was ‘getting a bit of a belly’ – I cannot express how damaging this is, not only physically but mentally. Eating Disorder Hope describes the danger of putting children on diets by highlighting the impactful action of mentally separating foods into ‘good foods’ and ‘bad foods’, introducing anxiety, guilt and pressure to a young mind that is just beginning to learn about its own body. Children begin to associate the selection of ‘good’ foods with their parents’ approval, thus developing an emotive relationship with their food intake and a dangerous pattern of controlling food selection. This can also lead to the adult anxiety that has caused many to have a hateful relationship with their bodies, reinforced by a media that reaffirms the idea of ‘good’ and ‘bad’, attaching those ideas to our bodies themselves.
Additionally, preliminary research at the Annual Meeting of the Society for the Study of Ingestive Behavior has shown that dieting from an early age is actually incredibly counter-productive: women who were made to diet as young girls are more likely to experience a number of side effects including obesity and, worryingly, a 79% chance of engaging in alcohol abuse. As a Bo-po Warrior, I understand that fat does not equal unhealthy, and that it certainly does not equal ‘bad body’ – but if your insistence on putting your child on a diet rests on the assumption that you are doing so for their health, please conduct some research on the actual long-term impact of your actions.
We engage in so many behaviours on a daily basis that we don’t even realise our sinking in to our children’s minds, let alone potentially causing them long-term issues. Aviva Braun is a private psychotherapist in New York City who specialises in eating disorders, and in a piece written for Parents.com back in 2013 she described the repeated instances of seeing young women with diet or self-esteem issues which stemmed from growing up in homes where certain foods were off-limits and had negative associations. Further to this, the majority of Aviva’s patients were pre-teens who had grown up in homes where the parents – particularly mothers – had a negative body image. Her first piece of advice is to be a body positive role model – and though I don’t agree with her insistence that we should tell our young children that their clothes are ‘flattering’ their bodies, I do agree that we need to stop talking about dieting and referring to bodies using negative words. A study conducted by The Telegraph in 2009 shows that 66% of teenage girls have heard their mothers complain about their weight. Remember that when you are with your child and you look at photos of yourself and say “oh god, look at my arms!” or suck your stomach in when you look in the mirror, you are teaching him or her that your love and respect is dependent on size. Show your child that you love and respect your own body regardless of its size and shape, and allow them to learn that you will love him or her regardless of their shape and size too.
It is our responsibility as parents to ensure our children are happy and healthy, and when you begin to see behaviours that suggest poor health – for example, getting out of breath sooner than his or her friends – it is easy to panic. First of all, ask yourself why you are worried. You have learned that increased mass is equal to poor health, but is that necessarily true? Are we simply forcing our own aesthetic ideals onto our pre-teens? Instead of placing your child on a knee-jerk diet, instead try and source positive activities that you can enjoy together. Bodies change and fluctuate for all of our lives, and there is no reason that your child’s body needs to be a source of stress or anxiety for him or her. Instead, think of some activities that you can do together such as trips to the swimming pool, taking a couple of tennis rackets down to a local park or just having them being outdoors and getting their knees muddy. It is even more important to remember, though, that weight is not equal to health and it is most definitely not equal to worth – it is of the utmost importance that your child knows that his or her weight is not attached to how much value should be placed on them. As long as your child is living a happy and fulfilling life, there is no reason for you to have any concerns.
I previously wrote a survival guide for fat girls who want to enjoy festivals in as comfortable an environment as they can. Let’s be honest, can festivals ever really be comfortable for anybody?! But if you have any concerns that are holding you back from buying a ticket – other than, y’know, the astronomical costs, which I can’t help you with! – then please hop on over and read that post.
Today I’m lusting over the very best of 2017’s plus size festival fashion. Trends this year include jackets which shimmer and shine for England’s rainiest festivals, but with the very welcomed (to me, at least!) addition of denims and leathers with a healthy dose of fringing. This year sees the return of the logo t-shirt, which I haven’t worn since I was 16 and dressed exclusively in tacky logos. Basically I am in love with festival style this year, and am going to spend my summer adding as much of it as possible to my wardrobe. The colour schemes are looking very late 70s/early 80s with a return to bright mustard yellows, white leather and a whole load of gingham. Let’s take a peek at the best of this year’s plus size festival fashion!
TOP LEFT TO BOTTOM RIGHT: Alice & You Shorts, £30.00; ASOS Floral Shorts, £25.00; Drawstring Linen Shorts, £22.00; Pink Clove Logo Tee, £15.00; Shredded Denim Jacket, £50.00; Cropped Metallic Jacket, £45.00
ASOS are killing it in the shorts game this year. I am absolutely loving the pom-pom trend, and it is well-known in the plus community that ASOS are the pom-pom kings. Unfortunately, their reign ends when it comes to the sizing. ASOS sizing can pretty hit-and-miss as it is, in my opinion, and the majority of the items above might technically go up to a size 28, but they are generally SOLD OUT above a size 24. This means one of two things: the brand threw out a few token 28s to be labelled inclusive, and those have been snagged already, or there is a greater demand for the top end of plus size ranges. Either way, ASOS remain pretty to look at but out of my reach. And that’s without even talking about their prices.
TOP LEFT TO BOTTOM RIGHT: Frayed Hem Skinny Jeans, £15.00 down from £29.99; Snake Print Lace Trim T-Shirt, £17.99; Gingham Cropped Trousers, £24.99; Rose Gold Anorak, £49.99; Yellow Bardot Top, £19.99
New Look’s Plus Size range is definitely my personal dark horse. I feel like the styles are much younger and on trend, the sizes are much more diverse and the prices are just generally better. Again, there is the issue that some of the larger sizes are selling out more quickly, and it is difficult as a consumer to know if this is an issue with supply or demand. New Look are getting hits all over the place at the moment for their lace additions to t-shirts. Admittedly some of them are absolutely hideous, but the lace sleeves on the above tees are a great way to make a punky t-shirt more femme. And forgive me for saying it, but I’m kind of loving the v-shaped fringing on that white t-shirt.
TOP LEFT TO BOTTOM RIGHT: Patch Boyfriend Jeans, £40.00; Acid Wash Denim Jumpsuit, £40.00; Love is Love Shacket, £49.00; Tassel Trim Fluted Sleeve Jacket, £45.00; Daisy Street Oversized T-Shirt, £20.00; Girl Power T-Shirt, £20.00
I’m going to be totally honest here: Simply Be was underwhelming. It took a while to even source these items, because most of the clothing was straying into old-lady or evening-wear territory. I’ve always stayed loyal to SB because they’re like the hipsters of size inclusivity – they were stocking size 32s before it was cool – but it’s really hard to say good things when the prices are rising and the clothes aren’t looking particularly great. The ‘Love is Love’ jacket (I’m sorry, I’m not saying ‘shacket’), however, is one of my favourites from across all of the websites I looked at. And though I’m not super keen on those jeans with the patches myself, I see them appearing on a lot of blogs over Summer 2017.
TOP LEFT TO BOTTOM RIGHT: Denim Harem Trousers, £26.99; Aztec Print Shorts, £16.99; Palm Print Harem Trousers, £19.99; Rock Chick Mesh Top, £19.00; Gingham Cami Top, £19.99; Indigo Denim Long Shorts, £19.99
A lot of plus size people don’t like Yours Clothing (because butterflies) but if you can get past the smock tops there are actually some staple pieces on there. I get all of my plain black leggings from there because they’re cheap, comfortable and durable, and I know they will always carry my size and beyond. The denim long shorts look super comfy and perfect for chafing, while the harem trousers come in some funky colours and are built for being comfy and lightweight: perfect for a festival.
Being the introverted wife and mother that I am, I kind of feel a bit like my time for festivals has come and gone. I don’t like drunk people, crowds suck the life out of me and I am really not good with loud noises. Yet as a teenager I longed to don my wellies with my friends and tag along on their ‘festival shopping’ trips, and somehow could never bring myself to do it. Why? Because I wasn’t even at the beginning of my body positivity journey at that time: I was just a chubby teenager with confidence issues and thin friends. Being fat should never stop you from doing anything you want to do, and now that the sun is rising on festival season I felt like it was my duty to stand up and say “Hey. I missed out, and you shouldn’t have to”. Here are the eight tips I would give my teenage self in order to survive a festival as a fat girl.
First thing’s first: you need the right place to sleep. Tent sizes are described in terms of how many men they can hold, so your average two-man tent is not going to cut it for your above average body and a gal pal. Don’t be afraid to suggest sizing up in the name of comfort. Your body naturally takes up extra space, and it is totally okay to make it clear that additional room is essential for you.
I honestly think that the biggest problem fat people face in situations like this is the physical discomfort of being fat in the heat – in particular, this includes chub rub. I cannot stress enough how important it is to remember ‘prevention, not cure‘ when it comes to chafing: if your body has started to chafe, it is already too late. There are various lotions and potions which help deal with thighs rubbing together, and some people swear by things like talcum powder to soak up any extra moisture. Personally, I choose to wear leggings that are cut into shorts – or even better, a pair of Chaffree shorts – and I make sure my bra isn’t sitting too tight or doesn’t have underwire poking and prodding at my underarms. Other than that, all you can stay is stay clean and dry as much as physically possible and wear clothes in soft materials which fit you comfortably.
Being fat can automatically raise your temperature a degree or so – and I’ll avoid the obvious joke about how hot you are – so it’s even more important to stay cool and well hydrated than it would be for a straight sized person. I personally find that it really irritates me when my hair sits on my shoulders, and I end up feeling hot and bothered and generally uncomfortable. An uncomfortable person is not a person who is having a good time at a festival. Spend a couple of weeks perfecting braided hairstyles like the gorgeous halo braid, or simply stick a headband on and tuck all of your hair around it to get it off your neck. Or go one step further, like I did, and just shave an undercut into your hair purely because you hate the feeling of hair on your shoulders. I appreciate that not everybody is as extreme as I am.
I’m sure everybody has heard of the SheWee, but honestly I never thought it would be an option for me. At the risk of too much information, when you have additional flesh it can be difficult to navigate something like that, especially without having it spill over your legs. But the thought of a those grotesque portaloos you find at festivals forced me to get googling, and sure enough I found a solution: did you know that SheWee does extension pipes? Hurray for easier access! Now, to work out what to do when you need twosies…
Please do not feel that, because you have more skin, you are less eligible to display it. Your body can be as dressed or undressed as you feel comfortable with. Covering up large arms and legs makes you more at risk of dehydration and heat exhaustion: let your limbs be free! Though of course, make sure you do cover up in direct sunlight and apply the highest factor sun cream you can find, as a bigger body means more space to soak up the sun, increasing your risk of sunstroke.
Speaking of sun cream, it’s worth remembering that it can be difficult for even a straight sized person to apply sun cream to every inch of their bodies. There are fantastic little devices for reaching over your shoulder to get your factor 50 to the very middle of your back, and it’s worth remembering for your other hard-to-reach areas. Please remember that you might not be able to reach somewhere, but the sun certainly can.
When all of my friends would shop for wellies, I would avoid the conversation at all costs. Standard wellies just did not fit my extra extra extra large calves, and it was easier to tell people I just wasn’t interested in joining them than it was to admit that I was different, and things didn’t fit me properly. I was embarrassed. Please invest in a decent pair of wellies with extendable calf sizes before you go; something that won’t pinch your calves as you walk, doesn’t form that weird suction/air pocket around your ankles and looks adorable to boot. To welly boot. Get it?
Finally, something every single festival attendee should do, regardless of their size: create two care packages. In number one, include pain medication, rehydration packs, sun cream, baby wipes, kirby grips and a lip gloss because you need something to make you feel human while you’re there. And most importantly, the care package for that first night you’re home after your trip, when you’re ready for nothing more than fluffy slippers, a hot chocolate and Bridget Jones on DVD. Brownie points if its Bridget Jones’ Baby, so you get to relive the glory of one of the best festivals of your life.
We always knew we would home educate our son. Before he was even a flutter in my stomach, I knew I didn’t want to send him in to mainstream education. After years of battling, and on the brink of needing legal support, my daughter’s biological mother has finally relented and agreed that home education could also be an option for our 11-year-old, too. And so here we are: a family of four embarking on a fully-home-ed journey together, all of us learning which steps to take as we are taking them. One of the many benefits of home education is that there is no national curriculum, and we can tailor what they learn to suit their personal interests, and our priorities as a family. So here are the five things I will be making sure my home educated children are going to learn.
Of course! I write for a body positive magazine, so of course body positivity is going to be instilled in my children from a very early age. This is particular important for my daughter, who is 11 years old and lives half of her life in a home where her eating is monitored quite heavily. We have been placing particular emphasis to both children on the ideas that ‘thin’ does not equal ‘kind’ and that it is okay to look exactly how you want to look. Other lessons crop up at least weekly, and luckily I am in a position where I am able to answer many quandaries thanks to this fantastic magazine.
The children are at different stages in their lives. My son is four, and independence to him is teaching him to tidy away his things and brush his teeth with guidance, not assistance. For my daughter, lessons include us waiting in the car while she goes in to the shop with a short list and a budget, and allowing her to arrange meet-ups with the friends she had when she was in mainstream education.
When I began jotting down ideas for home education, teaching both children about appropriate communication was so important to me that I have essentially made it a ‘school subject’. My daughter engages in pen pal correspondence with a couple of other home educated girls her age, teaching her letter-writing and of course having her learn about home ed from girls her own age. We have also put emphasis on her learning to be open and honest with her feelings, and learning to communicate her emotions in an appropriate way that makes both parties feel comfortable. Of course, my son being four years old means most of his communication education at the moment revolves around learning to do as he is told!!!
Our first lesson in individuality was a trip to the Crazy Colours website and a couple of bottles of hair dye! Semi-permanent colour is not damaging to hair; instead, it provides a conditioning treatment as well as the change of colour. It is important to me for my children to learn that they are in control of their own bodies, and as long as their decisions are safe and legal they have the right to express themselves however they see fit.
We want to look at family trees, heritage, lineage and, arguably the most important element, the idea that it takes more than blood to make you a family. My husband and I each have extensive families full of ‘steps’ and ‘halves’ dotted all over the place, and now our children are having the same experiences, too. We want to learn about how to operate within a family, how to be a good family member and that everybody’s family looks different. This infographic by Slater and Gordon is an awesome representation of how diverse the notion of ‘family’ has become in the UK, and as a historian I am also interested in exploring historical trends for families and looking at the decline of the nuclear family. But that is probably just me being a geek.
What life lessons do you feel are vital for your children, and how do you instill them?
photo credit: Daisy Hollands
It comes up time and time again: the age old argument between body positivity and health. Those oh-so-concerned people who are only trying to look out for my health. The apologists, who say that it’s okay to be fat, as long as I am healthy. Of course, the next issue becomes the ‘message I am sending’. Won’t somebody please think of the children?!
First thing’s first: the health narrative is ableist, patronising and insulting. You do not care about the state of my health, you care about the state of my face. And my bum. And my boobs. And my arms. And my stomach. And my legs. You care about what visuals you are taking in, as if my appearance were only there to satisfy your gaze.
In reality, you’re not telling me that you’re worried about me being unhealthy, you’re telling me that you’ve found a valid reason to make me feel guilty about my body. My size causes you no pain, no damage, you just find it unpleasant to look at – and yet you comment. You tell me to change, because you feel that you can.
The health narrative is ableist because you are assuming that everybody is on a level playing field. You assume that because you are able to ‘eat less, move more’, that others will be too. You assume that because you do not struggle, there is no reason that others should. You assume that because you coped with your own struggles, others will be able to cope with the same. Remember that not all bodies were created equally: some of them have fewer capabilities than yours has. Some of them are built in different shapes than yours. Some of them have fewer limbs, or less power, or they hurt, or they can’t feel anything. And though not all bodies should be treated equally, because every single body has its own set of specific needs, every single body on this earth deserves to be given equal respect and love. Do not impose your limitations upon my body and assume that I need to work within your parameters.
The health narrative is patronising because you seem to think that what you are telling me is brand new information. That I haven’t had a lifetime of hearing statistics about the correlation between obesity and poor health. That I haven’t examined myself repeatedly and felt that very same loathing that is burning inside of you. It is very rare for a fat person to have been born with body positivity instilled within them. The journey is arduous, sometimes repetitive, and filled with many tears. It takes a lot of time to ‘train’ yourself not to feel like you have an obligation to restrict yourself after Christmas, and not to wear special underwear when you can see the outline of your own stomach through your clothing. But finally fat people are able and allowed to feel positive, and even proud, of themselves. You bring nothing to the table when you comment on a stranger’s instagram photo and try and undo years of magnificent progress. They have told themselves everything you could possibly say, and they have learned how to cope and counter. Do not waste your breath.
photo credit: Sophie Griffiths
Finally, the health narrative is insulting because you are being rude and unnecessary. Fat is unique: it would never be considered socially acceptable for you to approach (or shout at) a stranger with the sole purpose of telling them that you hate the way any other part of them looks, and that they should change it. When did I become your property to alter? Why do you believe that your lower weight makes your opinion more valid than mine? Why is it so hard for you to believe that some people like to look this way? Ultimately, you are entitled to look however you want. You do not need an ‘excuse’ for your weight, any more than you need an excuse for your elbows. You do not need to be an example for anybody else, and if anybody tells you that your weight, and your health, is impacting any other person they are using a guilt tactic to lie to you.
If you are a fat person reading this, please disregard any and all comments from other people about your health. Your health is your responsibility and nobody else’s, and you are entirely within your rights to do whatever you like. It has nothing to do with anybody else.
If you are a thin person who believes that fat people are damaging their health and they need to lose weight, you need to take some time to really ask yourself what the true motive is for your opinions. And then ask yourself who the hell asked you for your opinion anyway, and move on with your day.
I swear this year is passing in the blink of an eye. It is May already. We’re one month away from a snap general election and two months away from actual full-blown Summer. So many amazing things are going to happen this year, and there have been some pretty awesome moments throughout the year so far. Here are some of our favourites from April.
Did you see Kitty’s results using the Curly Girl method? It’s also called co-washing and it has worked ridiculously well for her. She looks amazing! Kitty was absolutely killing it in the blog game this month, and released this super handy guide on how to tell the difference between real and fake fur when you’re shopping on the high street.
On a personal note, I handed in my dissertation this month! This has meant so many amazing things: I have been able to get outside and spend quality time with my children. I have been able to actually catch up on jobs around the house. And the biggest news: I have been able to play Sims 4 for the first time since I bought it. Get this, you guys: I bought it for myself as a congratulatory gift for completing my first year of University back in July 2015 and it’s taken me until the end of third year to find the time to play it!
April is TV month in my house. Loads of our favourites come back to us; Better Call Saul, Teen Mom OG (judge me.), usually Game of Thrones though it has been postponed until July this year, boo!, The Blacklist and so many more. My husband and I have also fallen in love with Cosplay Melee this month and I’d definitely recommend it for anybody who loves cosplay – even those with interests in fashion or DIY would probably enjoy it, some of the stuff they can do is incredible. Daisy has also been introduced to some new programmes this month too, and has been loving Catastrophe and The Detroiters, and Carrie Ann recommends tucking in to Miss Fisher’s Murder Mysteries to get your series fix – if you’re looking for something to watch, give those a go!
I booked nine days off work in April to finish my dissertation and revise for my exams, and with the bank holidays and weekends it worked out to be a full eighteen days away from work. Of course I had to seize the opportunity to inject some fun back in to my hair, and I grabbed L’Oreal Colorista in dirty pink as a temporary way to bring some pink back in to my life. This is a temporary dye which is only meant to last 1 – 2 washes, so it was perfect for me to make the most of during my break from work. The packaging recommends leaving the product in your hair for 20 – 30 minutes before washing out, but as it claimed it doubled as a nourishing hair mask I kept it on for an evening and just washed it out before I went to bed. My hair felt SO soft as I rinsed out the product, and the colour looks absolutely gorgeous – much deeper than it looks on the box, perhaps because I kept it on for so long. I haven’t washed it yet because I want to keep it in for as long as possible – I try to only wash my hair around twice a week because it gets frizzy and dry – but so far it is on day four and only feels greasy/like it needs a wash today. Even if it all comes out in one wash it has done more than I expected it would.
This article is a couple of years old, but Zoë found it this month on a day that she really needed to read it. Lindy and Aham looked amazing on their big day, and it truly looks like it was such a happy wedding.
Zoë was also pleasantly surprised to find some plus items on Lipsy’s website this month, including this Junarose sweat dress that is so not her usual style, but I can definitely see her rocking it with some sunnies and ankle boots this Summer.
Carrie-Ann didn’t let Easter weekend’s bad weather get the best of her this month, and instead she took her festivities indoors to have a carpet picnic. April is the best month because hello, chocolate! But her carpet picnic was an adorable idea and the best way to make sure the rain never puts a dampener on your plans.
This Art Deco inspired dress by Lady V has captured Carrie-Ann’s heart this month, and its not hard to see why! I had previously seen this dress and nicknamed it the ‘applecado’ dress because they look like avocados with red apple skin, and I can definitely see Carrie-Ann looking adorable in some applecado!
This dress of dreams by ASOS is going to be the plus size dress of Summer 2017, I just know it. It is sold out in every size from a 20 upwards (hello ASOS, plus size people are clearly buying from you! Please make more!) and I am ridiculously sad that I can’t get hold of one myself. The yellow. The pompom sleeves. The fabric. It is amazing. Kitty surprised Steph Yeboah with this dress earlier in the month and it looks astounding on her. I defy you to put this dress on and not want to immediately get yourself out in the sunshine.
We’re loving these jeans by ASOS for the crossover from sometimes-chilly Spring to searing Summer. A good pair of ripped jeans need to be a wardrobe staple, and the bleached bottoms on this pair have won our hearts.
It goes without saying that the majority of the plus size community is feeling pretty disappointed in our formerly favourite cosmetics brand right now. If you haven’t heard about LUSH and their recent bad decision, the essence of the story is that they posted a selection of photographs which equated value with health, and then being fat with being in poor health. Of course we all know the basics: you can’t tell somebody’s health just by looking at them. People are entitled to be valued regardless of how healthy or unhealthy they are. Et cetera, et cetera. But apparently LUSH did not know these basics, and didn’t necessarily agree that anybody was entitled to be upset by their photographs. Which is fine by me: they’re pretty expensive and I prefer to support independent brands where I can, so I won’t be wasting any more time on a brand that clearly does not respect my worth.
I’m not going to be going without my weekly fizz fix, though. My Sunday night routine involves a hot bath, a book and a bath bomb, so it was time for me to head straight to Etsy and start looking for some replacements. I haven’t had time to test these bath bombs yet – believe me, if they had arrived in time, I’d have been heading straight for the bathroom – but there is such a cute selection out there and the prices are around the same (if not less) than you’d expect to pay at LUSH, so I thought I would share my most glitterful and wondrous finds.
At first glance, I thought this Soul and Soup bath bomb was a unicorn horn, but they have taken it one step further and labelled this rainbow magnificence a ‘unicorn poop’! This bath bomb is supposed to smell fruity, which is always a bonus, and they have stated it is 100% cruelty free.
This beauty by Arcadia Bath Company is fanning the gothic flames of my soul. Black and pink glitter will always have a special place in my heart, because it makes me think of MySpace and Skechers and the mounds of eyeliner which come with being 14. The best bit is that there are a whole bunch of scents you can choose from to make this bath bomb really personalised to your own tastes.
This Unicorn Horn by SugarMilkCo is absolutely gorgeous, from the subtle shimmer to those adorable tiny stars embedded throughout. I personally love that this bath bomb looks so delicious they felt the need to state that it isn’t actually edible.
You guys! Trolls! This bath bomb by FizzyFriendsBathBomb is just adorable, with a nostalgic treat (because we could all use a bath toy?!) waiting inside for you. Of course, these bath bombs are aimed more at children with their promise of sweet smells and even sweeter surprises, but aren’t we all big kids at heart?
From one type of nerdy to another: behold, the Death Star bath bomb by Fizz Fairy. This is the bath bomb you are looking for: gorgeous essential oils and traditional ‘soapy’ smells, plus you even get a cheeky freebie in there too!
I’m going to be honest here: if the title starts ‘sparkly unicorn cupcake’, no matter how it ends I am almost definitely going to love it. This glittering bath bomb by BathingBeautiesUK is said to smell like ‘a cupcake a unicorn would eat’, is packed full of cosmetic glitter and is 100% Vegan. You can’t go wrong!
If you’re ultrafemme but absolutely sick of the unicorn craze, maybe these fairy dust bath bombs by Lizzie’s Fizzies will do it for you. These dusty pink sparkling bath bombs come in a set of three and look absolutely perfect for a quick weeknight soak.
The sparkles on this bath bomb by The Dirty Vegans are to die for. Bursting with iridescent shine and with a mouthwatering strawberry milkshake smell, this 100% vegan bath bomb is heaven in a bubble bath. They’ve even hinted at a special surprise at the end of the bath bomb which adults and children alike will love; I’ll have to keep you posted on that one!
I love a cherry bakewell, so this bath bomb from Little Ducks Soapery caught my eye straight away. Another bath bomb with a hidden treasure inside, and I’m sincerely hoping this one comes with the almondy smell I love in a good cherry bakewell.
My final love is probably my favourite: this set of Beauty and the Beast bath bombs by FizzFairy. HAVE YOU GUYS SEEN THESE?! Yet another hidden gift (maybe LUSH were missing the boat by not having so many gifts) and the classic imagery from our favourite Disney tale. I feel like I’m going to feel like a seven year old princess when I take a bath with these. To clarify, feeling like a seven year old princess is a positive. I think.
Will you be boycotting LUSH too? Let me know where you’re heading for your cosmetics now!
Having an eleven year old daughter is a big responsibility, guys. They’re at this pivotal stage in their lives where they’re not quite children but not quite teenagers, and boy don’t they know it. And the worst part of it all is that no matter how salient your guidance at this crucial stage in their lives, they are automatically going to turn their noses up at all of it because you are old and most definitely uncool. Luckily, there are some pretty rad women out there in the blogosphere (who are probably the same age as me but 100% cooler) who, lets be honest, have way better advice than I could ever give. In fact, these bloggers aren’t just great for your daughters – they’re great for any of the women in your life.
I have made no secret of my love for Tara of Cattitude fame, and she delivers a special brand of kick-assery that I most definitely want my daughter exposed to as soon as possible. I defy you to find somebody as period positive, as comfortable talking about sex and as confident in her knowledge of the anatomy of a vagina as this lady. I want my girl to soak up her words because they’re everything I need her to know, but from a younger and much cooler source who she is definitely more likely to listen to.
Alysse from Ready to Stare has some of my favourite clothing on the internet right now, so I was pretty stoked when I realised how amazing her blog is. She is a fellow fat who advocates total body positivity and offers amazing fashion in her clothing store, and her blogs really highlight how much of an impact fashion makes in her life. Sure, it sounds superficial to recommend that my daughter reads a fashion blog but there are two very important reasons for this: either she will be fat, or she won’t be fat. If she is fat I want her to have spaces like She Might Be and Ready to Stare where she 100% knows her worth and that she is not alone. And if she isn’t, then my God I want my girl educated completely and ready to be the best ally she can be.
I grew up in the middle of nowhere, so my daughter is lucky to have already grown up in a much more multicultural childhood than I ever did. While she isn’t Muslim and has never expressed any desire to dress modestly, I would love for her to read the likes of Dina Tokio who prove to young women everywhere that modest certainly does not mean drab, and for her to be aware of different ways of dressing your body. Dina manages to achieve pictures that look like they belong in high-fashion magazines, combining fun and quirky prints and amazing fashion advice, and has gone on to design and distribute amazing pieces for millions of other gorgeous women.
Finally, The F Bomb is the perfect little slice of the internet for a pre-teen daughter. In their own words, The F Bomb is ‘a blog/community created for teenage girls who care about their rights as women and want to be heard’, and that is 100% something I want my daughter to be part of. I hope that my girl grows to be the kind of woman who knows what she wants and who speaks up, and immersing herself in bad-ass blogs like this is most definitely a step in the right direction. What I love most of all is that The F Bomb offers a platform for the day that she herself decides she has something to say. It’s full of important worldly issues and I sincerely hope I can get her hooked on this blog as she grows into her teenage self!
Have I missed any out? Which blogs do you consider vital for your young’un?