Lifestyle and home education blogger at Wildling Wishes, main contributor and editor for She Might Be, draws pictures for money at Rymermade on Etsy.
Lifestyle and home education blogger at Wildling Wishes, main contributor and editor for She Might Be, draws pictures for money at Rymermade on Etsy.
When I was newly getting in to the plus size blogging world, Lindy Bop was everything. Their prints were bright and bold and plus size people were actually able to wear exciting, vintage-looking, fashionable clothing that didn’t cost a ridiculous amount. As time went on, though, I made a conscious effort to only shop with brands who had inclusive sizing. Lindy Bop stopped at a size 26, so I had to say goodbye to my favourite brand of the time. I still wore (and still wear!) the dresses I already owned because the money had been spent, but LB started bringing out really exciting prints right after I boycotted them and honestly, my heart was sad about it. I have tweeted and emailed Lindy Bop multiple times asking them to increase their sizing, and I’m sure many others have done the same.
And then I spoke to our lovely Kitty and she mentioned a size increase from Lindy Bop. My ears immediately pricked up. I read a bit more about it on her blog, and was very excited to discover that Lindy Bop really had listened to their many supporters and taken a positive step to increase their sizing. I’m thrilled!
Of course there are negatives in the situation. They have only extended to a 28 right now, which is a one size increase – putting them level with River Island Plus in terms of inclusivity – but its such a positive step that I don’t even care. I suspect that they are rolling out each size incrementally so that they can get a feel for the market, so if they see a trend of increased sales every time they release a new size the situation is only going to get better much faster. This is a good time to shop, right?!
The other downside is that the prints are nowhere near as good as they are in the rest of the range. Considering LB have such a huge size range already (6 to 26) I’m unclear as to why they didn’t just extend the entire range that one size larger. Don’t get me wrong: the five dresses that reach a size 28 are nice, they’re just not what I love about Lindy Bop. I’m looking for space unicorns, damnit.
So, am I going to start buying from Lindy Bop? Yes, I think I will. I’m not thrilled with the larger selection but I definitely want to show them that I appreciate the effort, and express that I would love for them to do even more. I encourage others who feel the same as I do to tweet them your shared support, and let them know that you can’t wait to see what size they extend to next!
Having an 11 year old daughter makes me feel like a dinosaur. From BATIM to FNAF to being told about Markiplier and everything in between, I find myself smiling and nodding on pretty much a daily basis. But when she mentioned Candy Gore, my interest was piqued.
Y’all know I am obsessed with pastel goth, so the idea of Candy Gore was pretty adorable to me. At its essence, Candy Gore takes the theme of horror and makes it a little bit cutesy, by adding pastel or bright colours (often candy) to enhance the design or replace the gore. My daughter is in love with drawing and spends a lot of her time coming up with super cute-yet-creepy designs, and it got me thinking about what sickeningly sweet merchandise I would come across if I searched for it on Etsy – and since Christmas is coming up and you might also have a weirdo in your life, I decided to put together this gift guide so things can get a little bit creepy under all of our Christmas trees.
Note: I chose to feature Etsy because I prefer to support independent sellers where I can,
and I encourage you to do this as much as possible when you are Christmas shopping!
Are you ready to be amazed? This adorable ‘SLICE ME a pizza‘ listing is actually for a bath bomb! Though the bath bomb itself is only a fiver, unfortunately the postage costs are pretty hefty so this one won’t be making its way into my life. But I couldn’t talk about gore without mentioning this!
I am new to Coey and Shy, but they are quickly becoming one of my favourite brands on Etsy with their bold prints and, frankly, even bolder ideas. My daughter is an artist, so this pencil case would come in super handy for her – it could also be used as a toiletries bag for holidays or festivals, or even to carry your make-up essentials. For £15 including postage, it’s good to know that this bag is very versatile, because the print is too cute to pass up.
Mum points! This is from FNAF! My son is pretty scared of Springtrap, but maybe Candytrap would be more bearable?! From the candy canes to the red vines to the pastel colours and the pizza, this poster is candy gore through and through, and it is ridiculously cute. It does come in just over £20 when you include postage, but if you know a Five Nights at Freddy’s fan this might just be the perfect present.
Tasty, gummy, chewy entrails! These t-shirts – Chest Cavity and Gummy Guts – are both by seller PandyApparrel, and are stupidly twee in the best possible way. I love a good pun, and the ‘chest cavity’ one in particular is something I would live to wear with a brightly coloured skirt. They do go up to a men’s 2XL so the sizing is better than many, but there is still room for improvement. One downside to Etsy is that its rare to find clothing in proper inclusive sizing, so I tend to use it to buy gifts rather than clothing.
Maybe it’s just me, but I am obsessed with these vinyl stickers. I mean, the seller called it ‘Drippy Eye Cutie Pie‘ for goodness sake! It is delightfully pastel and perfectly gory, and I definitely want one to stick to my laptop right now. Each sticker works out being just under £4.00 with postage, which I think is a great price for a high quality vinyl which features somebody’s adorable artwork.
These necklaces kind of look like bath bombs, but they’re actually made of polymer clay designed to look like candy sweets with not-so-sweet messages. I think I would go for a ‘hate’ necklace on a cutesy day, and ‘gore’ when I’m feeling morbid – and at a tenner a necklace, you could totally get somebody a couple to chop and change. Or… Stab and swap?
More from Coey & Shy here – and these pins and keyrings aren’t even on sale yet. This is definitely a girl gang that I want to be part of. I love that these are promoting being a badass female and challenging the idea that ladies need to be dainty. These would make great stocking fillers for your best friends, your radical friends, your friends who are all about being cute and strong.
Um. HOLO THERE. This is another vinyl that would be more than welcome on my laptop, and even the name of it is gruesome and wonderful: ‘Mushy Hand sticker‘. There is a non-holo version too, but this one is perfect for keeping your holosexual friends happy and honestly its just too cute not to get. The postage is about a fiver, but the sticker itself is only £2 and its coming from the USA and honestly, its worth it for the sparkle.
LOOK AT THOSE COLOURS! These pastel severed hands come in all of my favourite colours, and I can’t get over how cute they are. I honestly can’t think of anywhere in my house that I would need these, but if I got them I would find a space. If you know somebody who has a gorgeously creepy aesthetic, first tell me where they live and how to be friends with them, and then get them this immediately because it is just perfect.
The final stickers in my gift guide come from BatBrieIllustration, whose adorable illustrative style and use of gorgeous pastel colours has won me over in a heartbeat. The postage is super high if you’re outside of the USA but the stickers themselves are cheap, cheerful, horrific and wonderful. That skull reminds me of Murray from Monkey Island, so I feel like it would be worth it for that alone.
And to round off this gift guide is the sweetest slice of cake I have ever seen. The sponge actually looks spongy, it is so cool! I’m tempted to actually make this zombie brain cake in real life because it just looks delicious. This is a made to order item and with postage included it only costs about £10 to come from the USA, so I think it is incredible value for an adorable necklace.
Today, I am going to talk about something really difficult. I am a very guarded person, and I do not like to lay my cards on the table for everybody to see. However, I am also a ‘helper’, and I have seen a lot of people either feeling let down by CBT, or terrified because they are about to start. So I am going to say some things that are going to make me feel very vulnerable, and I hope people are kind.
I have been in therapy, on and off, since I was 16. I won’t go into details about the ‘why’, just the ‘what’. My first dalliance with mental health ‘professionals’ came in the form of art therapy. My GP thought it would be useful for me, after I refused psychotropic medication to handle this depression and nothingness that I couldn’t remember not feeling, and couldn’t verbalise the visible anxiety that the thought of medication had induced. You guys, I went to one session. It was 11 years ago now, but all I remember was a middle class lady who I would never identify with, getting nothing out of me for an hour and telling me to ‘scribble my feelings’. I was 16, not ready to talk about the stuff in my brain and I felt like I was being mocked.
Next came ‘family mediation’, which was doomed from the start. I was in a room with two women, one of whom I knew in my personal life. I grew up on a tiny island in remote Scotland, so of course this was going to happen. I was asked if I was comfortable seeing her, ‘given our situation’, but try asking an anxiety ridden people-pleaser to speak up about what she really feels. I said yes, refused to talk, literally had to colour in smiley faces to communicate my mood – then my dad died, I clammed up even more, in my last session they told me they had decided I was silent because I was in danger and they had involved the police. As an adult I now understand why they did it, but as a grieving 17 year old who was drowning her feelings in booze and couldn’t get her mind straight, I felt pretty blindsided and incredibly betrayed. I developed a deep distrust of counsellors and I vowed never to see one again.
And then I had a baby. Not immediately – it was five years later, actually. The birth was terrible. We both nearly died, but I won’t go in to all of that. After his first birthday had come and gone and I was still crying over not having the birth I wanted and having nightmares about the whole experience, I approached my GP and was finally put on medication. You will remember I had previously been very against it; the idea of medication altering my mind made me feel incredibly uneasy. In fact, during my a-bit-more-than-booze days, I had convinced myself that there were people living inside my laptop and phone who were trying to control my brain (lol seriously. Fear not, I do now have a diagnosis and am on some good meds!) and the idea of taking mind-altering medication was causing me flashbacks. After a year of increasing meds and a diagnosis of Low Mood changing to Depression changing to Mixed Anxiety and Depression, I began CBT.
My first counsellor, C, was lovely. Such a sweet lady. We got on super well, and she was the first professional (including my GP) who I felt was taking me seriously. I received the diagnoses of PTSD and PND and we also covered some of the basics of my social anxiety. Ironically, now that I am on my third round of CBT I am able to identify that I was having panic attacks that I wasn’t telling her about because I didn’t realise they were an issue. We did a lot of those worksheets that CBT gets a bad rap for, but generally I was quite closed off with her and felt like I was handing her issues to deal with so that I could stall long enough to avoid getting in to anything serious. Round One of CBT failed for me, but it wasn’t C’s fault: I just wasn’t ready to let it help me.
Round Two was Couples Behavioural Therapy, so CBT of a different kind. It instilled the principles of CBT but was an experimental treatment that was being trialled under the supervision of a university in America, in which couples where one or both of you have issues with depression learn to better support each other. It was there that I met R. I felt at ease with him immediately, and he was wonderful with my husband and I. I shared things that I had never shared with a counsellor before – perhaps because I had my husband there for moral support – and it was like he heard what I was saying but also knew what I was too afraid to say and helped me say it. It had been better than the first time. We had homework as a couple, and were able to work on some individual issues but the majority of the work was on interpersonal skills, understanding eachothers triggers and communication. Though CBT had helped me this time, I still felt I needed more. Two months after our couples CBT finished, I had applied for another round. This time, when I had my telephone consultation, it was decided that I needed to attend the highest intensity CBT. It took around 5-6 months for my name to reach the top of the list, but once it did I was over the moon – I had been assigned to R for the second time.
I don’t know if it was chance or if it was because he knew my history and what I needed help with. But I can’t express how glad I am that I have finally opened up and been honest about my thoughts and feelings because it is so refreshing to have somebody understand what I am saying and why I am saying it on a much deeper level. My most recent diagnosis has been panic disorder with agoraphobia and secondary depression, but that might change again – who knows? High intensity CBT so far has involved plenty of homework (I have to go outside EIGHT SEPERATE TIMES this week alone!!) and I have even had a session where we artificially induced panic just to explore the physical sensations and acknowledge that panic can do literally nothing to harm me. I am treated like a valid person, not just the name at the top of the list, and I am so glad I went for round three.
If you are struggling with your CBT, please give it time. Identify what your issue is. I have seen complaints that the worksheets are too reductive, or that your therapist isn’t suitable. These are things that can be discussed and ultimately changed if necessary! For those about to start, take your time and be as honest as you can. It hurts at times, but you won’t change unless you are ready.
If anybody would like to talk more about CBT, please comment and I will do my best to share specific elements of my experience. Please be respectful of the fact that this was very difficult to write and I do not want to discuss personal triggers or reasons for visiting a counsellor. I am not a therapist and cannot offer any mental health advice in lieu of attending CBT.
It might seem like the Summer sunshine is a hundred years away right now, but I feel like this is the best time to pick out your swimwear for 2018. It’s freezing cold outside, holidays are distant dreams at this point and – you guessed it – those Summery prints are just begging to be bought for a fraction of the cost. Sure, you will be wearing ‘last season’, but to me it is worth it for some of these deals. We’re looking at anything from 20% to 90% reductions! Here are some of my favourite picks.
Yours Clothing are a brand that consistently have great deals when it comes to end of range sales. A couple of their items even reached a 90% discount, but due to limited sizing I decided not to include them. The great thing about Yours is they are always keeping their eye on current trends, and looking for ways to make them more affordable. I swear, you could buy all of your swimwear and book a break through holidaygems.co.uk for your whole family and still have change from a grand, which is just perfect in my eyes.
SimplyBe do some gorgeous swimwear, and of course have a great range of sizes, but they tend to sell their seperates… Well, seperately. This is awesome if you’re somebody who wears a different sized top and bottom, or just love to mix and match. But the downside is that you do end up paying a little bit more overall, and it may be that you can only find half of a set in your size. Still, the discounts here are pretty good – an average of around 30% off on their website, which means that you can buy three times as much swimwear as you were going to before your holiday! That’s how it works, right?!
We have talked about Evans and their awesome range of swimwear on the past here at SMB, but there’s nothing wrong with looking back and seeing if we can grab any of those key pieces at a discount. Some of them are super pricey – you are looking at £100 even with discount for a couple of these – but they are still quite heavily discounted, so if you were somebody who was going to spend the money in the first place then a third off is definitely worth checking out! I will say, though, that the discounts seem to be doing quite well, as the cheaper swimwear is sold out in a lot of sizes on Evans.
Curvy Kate have a really great range of bra sizes, and a lot of plus size bloggers absolutely love them. While their bikinis are beautiful, however, the bottoms are not sized inclusively. I have decided to include the top halves because they’re great discounts, they’re beautiful bikini tops, the back sizes go up to a 44 and there’s no reason that these can’t be paired with a plain pair of bottoms from SimplyBe or Yours. But realistically, it does suck that yet again plus size people are having to ‘make do’.
And now for their She Might Be debut: Bonprix. Seriously. While I’m not super thrilled that the majority of their plus size swimwear range is a selection of oversized kaftans, I do understand that I am not their target market. As standalone pieces, these are pretty good swimwear staples, they all have around a 20% discount and the sizing is inclusive. That baroque print tankini is exciting the historian within me if nothing else.
Have you got a holiday booked for 2018? I am craving warmer climes, so do let me lust after your holiday destinations – and let me know if you grab any swimwear bargains!
A note from the author, before you read this article. While She Might Be is a body positive resource and you can always count on us to give you a safe space, unfortunately we cannot guarantee the same for every other website. There are sources used in this article which are not body positive. I felt that it was important to show that I was well-researched and show my sources, but unfortunately we are still living in a world in which ‘get rid of cellulite’ is going to sell a lot more books than ‘this is just something people have’. I implore you to check my sources if you feel that you are doubting anything I have said, yet similarly encourage you to ignore my sources if you visit She Might Be because you want a safe space that does not body shame.
We can’t control the rest of the internet, and we can only keep you safe here. – SG x
Apparently we’ve moved right back to the 1990s, because on a trip to a supermarket recently I actually saw a magazine with these three words emblazoned across the front of it: THE DREADED CELLULITE. I mean, realistically this is hilarious. We all know that cellulite isn’t “dreaded” – right? And then I got to thinking. Maybe some people do genuinely fear the appearance of cellulite. Maybe they go much deeper than just photoshopping it out of pictures a la Kim Kardashian, and have developed an actual phobia of the presence of cellulite and all that it entails. I decided to do a little bit of exploration, and see if we can bust some myths and get to the root of everybody’s problem with cellulite.
Now before I start, I’m not talking about cellulitis or any form of skin condition which causes you physical pain. I wouldn’t blame anybody for hating something which causes them pain! Interestingly, when I tried to do some research into the science behind cellulite I was bombarded with articles which asked ‘what is it – and how can I get rid of it?’. I think its really important to look at the cultural roots behind belief systems. I do this as a historian, and I do it as a body positive activist. Cellulite is something that people who are born biologically female are structurally designed to have – it is literally in our DNA. Fat cells respond different to estrogen than they do to testosterone, and cellulite is not caused by the presence of fat, but rather the structure of the fibres of our connective tissue. People who born biologically male have more testosterone, giving them tougher, inflexible connective tissue. Females have flexible connective tissue, allowing some of their adipose fat to be visible under the skin. And in case you’re wondering, this fat is essential in shielding your organs, encouraging hormone production and regulating insulin, inflammation and even cancer. It’s kind of a big deal.
So why do we hate cellulite? My first note to take from this research is that cellulite is a gender issue. It is impossible to deny this: cellulite has a 9:1 female to male ratio, and as we have just read this is because of basic structural differences in males and females caused by the presence or absence of estrogen. To have cellulite is to have estrogen, and that’s just the way it is. Yet media which represents itself as being exclusively for women is the leading source of all of the venom. Counter-intuitive, right? Perhaps not, when we look at the companies who are paying for adverts within said media. Essentially, female-specific media is aimed at telling women what to hate about themselves, selling them the remedies and then shaming them if the remedy doesn’t work. And at some point in the last forty years, ‘fat’ became the moral panic of women everywhere. This was an advertiser’s dream: fat is always going to be present on women, in flux at all times, so there is always going to be somebody who believes you when you tell them they’re defective and buys your new, expensive, exclusive remedy. And given that 90% of women have cellulite, it’s a pretty safe bet that if you throw out ‘cellulite looks bad, you must get rid of it’, you are going to make some money.
I took to my Twitter to ask my followers if they hated cellulite. Twitter is an echo chamber, and let’s be honest: if you’re the kind of person who is following my feed, you’re probably not going to be the kind of person who hates body fat. Not surprisingly, 87% of my followers had no problem whatsoever with cellulite. I asked if the 13% of ‘yes’ voters could share the reason for the cellulite-phobia, but unfortunately nobody was able to offer me an explanation. I think it is so deep-rooted in Western culture that a hatred of cellulite just ‘is’. But the tide is turning: we are seeing an increasing number of thin celebrities taking to their social media to announce that they have cellulite and they love it. While I’m not thrilled that these have qualifiers attached to them (“I just had a baby” “I can always lose it, but right now I have a busy lifestyle so I am happy” are some examples), I am thrilled that people in mainstream media are using their thin privilege and coming forward to normalise cellulite, to relate to other women and simply to speak out. As Hermione Granger would say, fear of a name increases fear of the thing itself. Which is why the body positive community is so vocal: we can only normalise that which is repeatedly present in mainstream media. While some of the qualifiers may be problematic, it is awesome for somebody with privilege to step up and say ‘actually, they are right’.
So now that we’ve had the science lesson and the gender studies lesson, I finished we would wrap up by showing you a whole load of beautiful women who have cellulite and are not afraid to share it – and maybe even love it. Enjoy this feast for your eyes!
Happy #cellulitesaturday 😀👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏 _________ from @sheakendall – Bodi Posi © Shea Kendall Photography If you want to see ALL the beautiful photos of these amazing women then you can go to my website (link in bio) and go to the tab "Projects." I've struggled with body image issues since elementary school, and I know what it's like to look in the mirror and feel so many emotions- have so many horrible thoughts go through my head. I've always struggled with the question of do I hate my body or is it just society who does? Because if I actually love myself then maybe what I'm not seeking is a better body, but love and acceptance for who I am. I think that's a lot of people's problem. We just want to be loved for being who we are body and soul. So I wanted this shoot to be just that. Just a warm welcome to women of absolutely every kind. So a huge THANK YOU to all of the women in this shoot- behind the scenes and in the photos. I couldn't have been more fortunate to meet and work with such amazing women. I can't stress that enough. It'll be a memory I'll always cherish.
I am posting this on behalf of young girls, women, and mothers of all ages. I'm enjoying a vacation with my son after a long season of shooting and being away from him for weeks at a time over those months. Since websites and magazines love to share 'celeb flaws' – well I have them! My body has given me the greatest gift of my life: Luca, 5 years ago. I'm turning 30 in September and my body is healthy and gets me where I need to go. Ladies, lets be proud of what we've got and stop wasting precious time in the day wishing we were different, better, and unflawed. You guys (you know who you are!) already know how to ruin a good time, and now you are body shamers as well. #kissmyass 😛✌🏻
Stop the shaming of women's bodies. #BraveBodyLove . . . – "Almost the exact same pose. Just different lighting. I've had several people tell me how brave I am to wear something or even post a picture of my legs looking like this… – What I'm confused about, is why it takes an act of bravery to be comfortable in your own skin? Why does it take guts to just be myself!?! – Here's why: Because people continue to perpetuate the idea that cellulite should be something to hide. – Saying I'm "brave" for wearing shorts (or anything revealing my legs for that matter) is just continuing to support the negative stereotypes about something that is so NORMAL and SO natural. Why hide?? – Why care about what someone else may think of you?? Just. Do. YOU." Thank you, @damnitkmac for pointing that out to me 👍🏼 via @tk_line09 #cellulitesaturday #embracethesquish #effyourbeautystandards #LoseHateNotWeight #nobodyshame
This weekend has been super warm, so no way was I spending it covered up! I love, love, love the sunshine so I didn't want to avoid it either! So here I am, in the middle of very busy Folkestone.. legs out, arms out and soaking up a few rays! I hear so many stories of people who wear cardigans in warm weather because they want to hide their fat parts. I'll share a secret with you…. if you're fat, you're going to look fat and that's ok! You are the only person who has to live in your body, so you are the only one who gets a say. If people dont like it, they don't have to look! If you want to go outside and get some sunshine on your flabby, pale, big, stretchmark filled arms then do it! I did and it felt glorious being out in the sunshine…. and thanks to factor 50 suncream I didn't burn. Yay! I wish it was sunny all the time! 🌝🌝🌝🌝🌝 Dress from @interrobangart in collaboration with @lollylikes
This vintage playsuit is so sweet! It was one of my absolute favourites from my day shooting stock with Source Vintage for their new website. I can't believe it wasn't snapped up right away but it's still available in their online shop 🙊 🌺🌼🌺🌼 #Repost @source_vintage with @repostapp ・・・ Everyone needs a floral play suit in their lives!!! 😘😍❤️Shop this style from our online store: link in the bio! 🌻🌻🌻🌻
I am a glutton for punishment. Some of my favourite pass times include filling shopping baskets with clothes I will never be able to afford, browsing the listings of houses I can only dream of living in, and fantasizing about a holiday I might never go on. From family holidays where my kids and I can jump over waves and fire up the BBQ on our patio, to dreaming of a girls’ weekend with cocktails in the sunshine and really extravagant meals (are you sensing a theme here?), I love browsing through holiday homes on drizzly October mornings and thinking about getting sand between my toes. I figured I can’t be the only person who has this odd little guilty pleasure, so I’m going to go ahead and share my ideal holiday to brighten up your practically-Winter morning.
Firstly, there has to be a pool. If we’re going full luxury here, then a private swimming pool is essential – right?! I think there is something deep-rooted within me that says having a swimming pool of your own is a sign that you’ve made it. I don’t even consider a house complete in The Sims unless I chuck a pool in the garden! My perfect holiday is going to be hot, hot hot – so I’m going to slap on the factor 50 and lounge around in some gorgeous water all day. After all, Perfect Holiday Sophie deserves it.
Some serious thought should go into the location – but Italian food is my favourite, and since there are several reasons to love Sicily such as the multicultural society and the close proximity to the sea, I think Sicilian beach holidays in a beautiful private villa are exactly what Perfect Holiday Sophie deserves. Those bright white beaches are just calling out to me, and as I look out of my real-life window and see nothing but raindrops and road, I can definitely get on board with sprawling out on some hot sand.
Beautiful swimwear would be at the top of my shopping list, and luckily Georgina has done all of my hard work for me and has compiled this list of amazing swimwear picks from Evans. Their bikinis are some of the most diverse in size that I have been able to find, while maintaining style and support as the number one priority. I also loved this set from Simply Be, and the pop of colour on this bikini from Curvissa.
And lets be honest – the perfect cost? Free! But realistically, we’re talking megabucks for my favourite holiday. And so I shall stay in England, wear fluffy warm coats and trudge through cobbled, wet streets that are increasingly lined with Christmas lights. I suppose it isn’t so bad after all.
Do you enjoy looking at things you will never afford? What does your perfect holiday look like?!
If you’re a long-time fan of She Might Be, you might remember Kitty’s wonderful Halloween Homeware post from this very day last year. I love looking back on posts from our really early days, and this one is a perfect example of one of our classic SMB round-ups that we have really tried not to stray far from. Kitty rightly highlighted some top Halloween homeware buys you could get from shops that are almost definitely in your area – and, like me, loved the fact that a lot of it was perfect for using all year round. Since this is the one year anniver-scary of that post (geddit?), I thought it’d be cool to look online at some Halloween homeware goods from independent or less well-known sellers. Here’s what I came up with!
I feel like homeware round-ups always need to begin at cups. They’re simple, they’re small, they’re totally customisable and everybody needs them. I’d say you can never have too many, but that might not be strictly true – I have a cupboard full of Easter egg cups that would definitely disagree. My favourite Halloween cup was this cauldron cup from The Rogue and The Wolf. Anything that has witchy vibes is a-ok in my book, and I am obsessed with the actual photo itself. Those nails! I also loved this cup from The Gothic Shop and this one from MysticumLuna for their quirky cups that equate Halloween with all things dark and wonderful.
Not only are candles the perfect way to inject some personality into your home, but there are a whole bunch of candles online with Halloween vibes because they are essential in many Wiccan spells and witches are, of course, associated with Halloween.
This pentacle tealight holder by Alchemy England is gorgeously goth, and can be used all year round, and the same can be said for this ADORABLE cat candle from The Gothic Shop. Seriously, I’m obsessed with it, and need it in my life immediately. And give yourself a colourful Samhain with these ridiculously cute pastel skull candles by EmberCandleCo. They tick my ‘pastel goth’ box and are incredibly beautiful for any time of year.
The skeleton game is strong in this amazing skull and spine lamp from Rock A Kitty. I really tried to look for more variety than just skulls all day every day, but there was no way I was doing a Halloween homeware post without including this three-headed wonder. Next I had a look around on Etsy for lampshades, rather than lamps themselves, that seemed gothic and spooky to me. As soon as I cast my eyes over this Bride of Frankenstein lampshade by SpookyShades, I fell in love. Their shop has a whole variety of really creepy lampshades, and is definitely worth a look in my opinion. And then I was whisked right off back to my childhood with this amazing crescent moon lamp by Lighting By Sara. A lot of the artwork and decoration I remember from my childhood features crescent moons and I definitely have a soft spot for them even today. I don’t necessarily see a crescent moon as screaming traditional ‘Halloween’, but as somebody with witchy tendencies I definitely wanted to tip my hat to some lunar influences.
I LOVE CUSHIONS! Seriously, ask my husband. Every time we’re in a shop with pretty cushions he catches my eye wandering over to the shelf and has to swiftly remind me that we already definitely have too many cushions in our house. And then I see this skull cushion from Rock A Kitty and I just know I’m going to be reordering my cushions to make room for a new one in the very near future. I really love this embroidered Creep It Real cushion cover by JAWDesigns, and I think the little creepy eyes are absolutely perfect. And don’t even get me started on how much I love this Witch, Please cushion by Creative Pillow LV.
When we think about decorating our houses for Halloween, we generally think about sticking things up which add to our existing decor, rather than incorporating Halloween into the way we decorate our homes. I tried to look for some nice Halloween style pieces that could actually be hung up in the home all year and would complement the spooky season, and I found some pretty cute and creepy pieces.
This I’m in a Bat Mood A3 wall hanging by The Rogue and The Wolf is absolutely adorable and hilarious to boot. I could definitely see this being framed and put in my living room, but on the website they let you know that its good enough quality to be put up without the frame. Speaking of bats, this stained glass hanging bat by GlassArtWerks is absolutely stunning and a really cool addition to any household that is a little bit goth. Finally, I am just head over heels for this embroidered hoop art by Black Point Embroidery. The artwork quotes Sarah Williams’ classic nineteenth century poem, The Old Astronomer: I have loved the stars too fondly to be fearful of the night. Perfect.
Work Halloween homeware into your year-round decor by putting up some gothic style shelving. The practising witches among you may already own a crystal shelf, but if you’re in the market for one this crystal wolf shelf by GrizzlySupplies looks super cute. Gothic vibes can be taken literally with this little floating shelf by TimberWizards which looks like a set of actual gothic arches. Or to stay completely on-topic and make it Halloween through and through, grab this coffin shelf by WitchCraftyCait. I love that it will add a subtly spooky touch to your living space while still being completely functional and useful all year.
And finally, the Halloween homeware that didn’t have a category but I couldn’t bring myself to leave out. This brass door knocker by BaliBoutique is just perfect for a home that’s a little bit goth, with a gorgeous skull decal taking pride of place in the entrance to your home. The teeny bones that make up the knocker part are just too adorable. Speaking of cute, I can’t get enough of this gorgeous glossy black soap dispenser by I Am Attitude. It gets a little bit gruesome with the presence of a rat scurrying out of the eyeball, but anything skull-shaped is welcome in my home decor. Finally, this jewellery tidy by The Discovery Store jumps out at you like a hand reaching out from a grave. The skeleton hand is the perfect way to keep your ghoulish jewels neat and tidy, yet the bones are just dainty enough to make it pretty. Or is that just me?
Do you like to dress your home up with Halloween homeware all year round, or do you prefer to keep Halloween away from your home? Let us know in the comments!
I’ve talked about being a student a couple of times on She Might Be. From my thoughts on being a mature student to an in depth description of your Graduation Day experience when you’re fat, it feels like you have all been part of my journey to becoming Woman With Letters After Her Name (that she doesn’t use) – and so it felt like the natural next step was to talk about my Masters.
I didn’t even know I was going to do a Masters. It 100% was not in my immediate plan – I wanted to finish University and just relax as much as I could for a little while. Yet there I was, on the evening of the 21st of July – I know because it was the very day that I graduated – hurriedly writing out a personal statement to see if I could apply in time for clearing. Maybe it was some sort of personal crisis, but it worked! And it all just sort of fell into place from there. I was going to do MA History at The University of Northampton because a) I love my University, and the faculty are absolutely amazing – there’s a reason they achieved that gold rating! b) I was excited by every single one of the modules, c) I could fit the programme of study into my existing lifestyle/condition of health because the University is relatively near me, and Master’s degrees tend to have less actual class time and d) most Universities offer an alumni discount on postgraduate education, and mine was no exception!
Well, part of it is that I just love learning. I am absolutely fascinated by the majority of the things I have learned (sorry, military history doesn’t do it for me – my personal tutor would be terribly disappointed!) and if academic achievement is the worst addiction I end up having, then I guess I’m doing okay. Secondly, I don’t know where our future is going to take us but our little family would love to get out in the world and explore one day.Sure, there are many interesting jobs available in England, but in case we end up in Canada, Australia or somewhere in Scandinavia, I want to make sure I am at the top of my game and qualified to take anything on board. Maybe I’ll even do a PHD – I’m honestly not sure. But in a way I guess it’s nice to have a bit of paper that says ‘hello, look, I R smart’ because you never know where life will go or when you’re going to need it.
I’m only a couple of weeks into my Masters, but so far there are quite a few big differences. Instead of taking six modules per year, I am taking five – but they are spaced out so that I am only taking a maximum of two at a time. Each module meets once every fortnight and has online activities that need to be completed each week, so the two modules I am taking alternate their class time/distance learning weekly. And I generally just have a change in attitude now. I am there because I want to be there, there is a lot more expected of me and the other people who are in my classes feel the same way. I read much more than I did for an undergraduate, so I have a deeper understanding of (some of) what I’m learning, and therefore have more to contribute in terms of online discussions, seminars and – hopefully – assignments. Speaking of assignments, there are no exams for me anymore! But essays are 3000 – 5000 words now, and my dissertation will be 15,000 words. This is a healthy step up from the final year of my undergraduate degree.
Different Universities might handle their postgraduate courses in different ways, but I thought I would update on this new experience for those of you who have followed my undergraduate journey and are considering University yourself. All being well, I’ll be back in a year with a brand new Graduation Day outfit to feature!