Northerner with a passion for lingerie, art, guinea pigs and sarcasm.
Northerner with a passion for lingerie, art, guinea pigs and sarcasm.
The Georgians and Victorians were many things, and that definitely includes morbid – in particular, they were spiritually obsessed with the afterlife. And luckily for them, everything is grimmer in grainy black and white. Their aesthetic was basically “How can we make this normal situation eerie?” Because of this, the context totally changes to an association we’ve consistently had with horror throughout the 20th/21st century. Apparently even Queen Victoria and Prince Albert were fascinated by Spiritualism and the afterlife, participating in seances as early as 1846. Even Sir Arthur Conan Doyle, the author of the Sherlock Holmes novels, was fascinated by the paranormal. He wrote over sixty books on the subject and a was a member of the British Society for Psychical Research. Britain has a long and rich history with the paranormal and lucky for us photos from that time period still exist. It was a universal obsession, with mediums travelling from the USA to Britain to impress wealthy members of society with their spiritual talents. In fact, the notion of being afraid of death is incredibly 21st century – our ancestors would live life in pursuit of a ‘good death’, and passing on from your physical life to your spiritual life was simply another step in your journey. It was sad to miss people, but it certainly wasn’t something to be afraid of. The Order of the Good Death is an organisation constructed by mortician and YouTuber Caitlin Doughty, and if you would like to learn more about historical ideals and beliefs surrounding death and how a positive relationship with death can work with you in the 21st century, I definitely recommend checking them out! And now back to Victorians…
It was in fashion to be creepy, creeped out or the creeper. I’m certain that this new and interesting concept was so popular for the same reason it is today. We LOVE being scared – just look at how many tickets were sold last month for the premier of IT. So, naturally, every photo the Victorians produced was creepy no matter how innocent the image’s subject was. Using the methods the Victorian’s used (including long exposure times which is why they all looked miserable AF) you can have an adorable puppy turn into a soulless fuzz demon. For example:
Just an average cute, Maltese puppy turns into…
OH MY GOD WHAT HAPPENED TO THAT PUPPY TO MAKE IT SO DEAD BEHIND THE EYES???
This lass was probably just having a “me” day and chilling in her boudoir with her hopefully flame-resistant drapery. It’s a beautiful photo but legit looks like someone could have taken it through a keyhole. If it wasn’t an early 20th century photo I probably wouldn’t even be thinking this.
And this lass is just spending some time naked with her marionette. A totally not creepy, completely average scenario.
Nothing wrong with a witch accessorising her outfit with a curtain tassel, times are hard. This is just an average Saturday night to me. Don’t bother enquiring about joining her coven. I’ve already asked and she said applications are now closed 🙁
And now onto the amazing (fake) spirit photos. Remember that time Uncle Gerald died and we all wanted to gather around for one last picture with his corpse? Yeah, me neither. Created with double exposure, I’m pretty sure someone said to the ghost “Just look creepy!” threw a blanket on her and this is what the result was. I’ve seen worse, like this next gem…
It’s awkward when a spirit finally shows up and then totally takes over your stunning head shot by being 50x the size of a living person and blocking your light.
This is actually a pretty well done image. Grainy image quality? Check. Sinister narrative? Check. Spooky bookcase that could potentially have books on the occult? Check. Skeleton hugging a man that has an enormous moustache? Check. 10/10 would scare again.
I reckon this lass was a moment before this photo was taken holding an animal which she gave up as a sacrifice. I’m not sure why she’d need to be naked for that but maybe when the gates of hell open it gets a bit toasty so she needed to shed some layers? Either that or she is being literally pulled from a deep slumber and she is incredibly unhappy about it. Either way, I’m not entirely sure it needed to be photographed. But you’d better believe I am glad that it was.
As you might have noticed, there is a huge crossover with Victorian photography and erotica. It’s now a well known fact that that time period was filled with absolute filth. After all, how could the uptight, strict and repressed Victorian people stay so when the vibrator was invented in the late 1800s?
I’m going to be honest. Maxi dresses are the dress I’m grateful to have when I can’t be bothered to put on tights/shave my legs but need to look at least half interested in what I ended up having to leave the house for. Understated, glamorous, timeless or bold; a maxi dress is the easy way to look like you’ve put 100% effort into your outfit when really you just fancied swishing around like a chiffon covered mermaid while people compliment the beautiful detail that is sewn onto your dress. I can be a lazy dresser, but I know truly that maxi dresses can be jaw-droppingly stunning when the non-lazy dresser get’s their hands on them.
Here’s some of my top picks of maxi dresses available at the moment!
Gatsby lady knows how to do glamour! £59.00 and up to a size 30, the Carolyn dress is a really excellent buy for special occasions. It is a timeless maxi that I would certainly keep forever as it’s a classic and beautiful style. It’d be too special to ever part with. The midnight blue colour and beading combined with the sheer cape means it can be worn all year round, for a wedding in the summer to a New Year’s Eve party.
The list wouldn’t be complete without a bardot neckline! While not everyone is a fan of bardot styles, this Evans dress is understated but pretty with gorgeous embroidery detail. It’s available in size 14-32. I like that this style of dress makes it seem so effortless to feel stylish. I have a pretty bad habit of having a collection of dresses that I can just pull on without having to do anything else to create an outfit. I’d probably be guilty of wearing this dress to go buy milk in as well as wearing it to birthday meal. No worrying about what I’m wearing on my bottom half as well as not having to deal with zips? Count me in!
I know this says it’s a beach dress, but I would totally wear this as an everyday dress and hopefully startle some prudes on the way. I’ve had my eye on it for ages and I really, really love the sheer panels. A glorious statement can be made with a dress that shows the areas plus size women get told to cover up. Stretchmark-statements are my cup of tea and I would quite happily live in this dress until we reach Winter. It comes in sizes 16-32 and costs £42.00.
I am in awe of the craft that Gatsbylady involves in their dresses! The lavender colour and delicate detail is pretty breathtaking. A jaw-dropping gown that can do no wrong, especially with understated accessorising. The Dolores dress comes in sizes 6-30 and is £179.00
I’ve never seen a polka-dot dress look so versatile before! It even has frills. FRILLS. And yet it somehow gets away with being totally glam?! I’d team this with a pair of red heels and lippy if I was going formal, but I reckon this could also be worn with sandals to a BBQ or a laid back lunch. It’s got a vintage charm to it too and I think it’d look cute with some victory rolls. Up to a size 28 and £65.00 isn’t bad for a dress that can make a million outfits.
This is a really cute, relaxed option. It can be styled differently with a pair of ankle boots and a leather jacket for a smarter look or a denim jacket and trainers for when you’re after something low maintenance. I’m a fan of throwing together things that a bit of a juxtaposition and I think this classic style of a tea dress can definitely worn from everything from a gig to a day at the beach. £30 and up to a size 28, ASOS are usually pretty bang on with their value for money.
Awesome Autumn colours for this long sleeved maxi from Navabi. Perfect for the cooler days we’re getting now and it can easily be layered up for when the weather really changes. Paisley is pretty unstoppable as a pattern and this dress comes in sizes up to a 32 and costs £143.99. While it’s on the pricier side, it’s an investment in an excellent quality dress that will never age.
I can’t be the only one who is absolutely in love with pink at the moment? Pink hair, pink lipstick, pink nails. Pink pompoms, pink trains and now PINK COATS! Autumn is getting closer and not only does that mean layering up without sweating profusely, but also being able to wear some cute coats! I’ve picked a favourite selection from the first drop of Autumn styles. I want every single one of these!
A classic suede jacket that will keep out the chill. They might be a bit high maintenance to look after, but suede jackets are underrated. River Island. Sizes 18-28, £60.00
Something a little bit lighter for warm Autumn evenings! It’s casual but with that mix of delicate detail with the gorgeous embroidery. Now on sale at £38.50! Sizes 10-32.
I want this. I want this, I want this. Hands off because it’s mine. Sizes 18-28, £65.00.
A cute waterproof! Let’s face it, it’s going to rain and there is a minimum amount of joy to get out of that so looking like an adorable drowned rat is better than just a drowned rat. (PSA: Rats are adorable damp or not) Sizes 18-28, £34.99.
It’s a bit rubbish that this jacket only comes up to a size 24. Come on, Forever 21! Step up your game!
A gilet when you’re happy to risk having cold arms/a warm torso. I’m still struggling to find a sound understanding of gilets as you can probably tell. From what I know from working in retail at a lifestyle brand, they’re good for wearing while “walking the dog”. So if you want to look like the most stylish dog walker in the land, this new look gilet is probably for you! Sizes 18-32 and £39.99.
I’m pretty passionate when it comes to plus sizes and their availability when it comes to lingerie. Only recently has a more diverse range of lingerie become accessible in a truly vibrant and fun way. A matter of just a few years ago, I would put in my bra size and find only nursing bras available to me. This made me accommodate bras that fitted incorrectly, instead of brands accommodating me. But, no more! Larger back sizes and cup sizes have finally broken into the mainstream! We have a way to go, but I thank my bullet-bras that I can now wear something that gives me confidence and comfort instead of anxiety and pain.
Here are my top ten picks of plus size lingerie available online at the moment.
Sizes 14-36, this body is versatile and an amazing colour! £19.00 for amazing lace detail and a cute cut out style.
Not your average floral bra and at £18.00 it’s a bit of a bargain. Sizes 36C to 48DD
The cutest babydoll I’ve ever seen and it has been on my wishlist since I first saw it! Back sizes 32-40 and cup sizes D-J available at £42.00.
For something a bit different during the Summer nights, a coral coloured chemise sizes 10-26 with pretty lace detailing. £24.99
A classic black lace bralette from New Look at a totally reasonable £17.99! Sizes 40C to 44E
Getting prepped for Autumn with this stunning berry coloured Elomi bra. Sizes 34G to 44GG and £42.00, Elomi bras are worth the investment as they’re ridiculously comfy and long lasting.
An amazing value harness bra that does sizes 36C to 48D!Polkadots and mesh are a weird combination when done incorrectly, luckily this Bustier from Yours is adorable and in sizes 16 to 30 at £25.00, you can’t really go wrong.
I can’t believe how in love I am with this chemise in ivory. The colour combination is very vintage inspired and would be perfect for a bride or just to wear as something pretty. Sizes 8-26 and £25.99
A two pack of bras in colours that are practical (white for under lighter colours and red for a pop of colour when needed!) that are £30.00 for both and go up to back size 50!
I hope you’ve found something you love in my top ten picks of inclusively sized lingerie! Is there anything I’ve missed? Please share it with us in the comments!
Summer is almost over – did it really ever begin? The end of Summer can only mean one thing… rain. And of course wanting to actively go out to enjoy the last of the summer weather only to be met with… rain. And going to that festival you love only to experience mud-fest more than Leeds-fest because of… rain!
I’m a person who sometimes chooses practical clothing over fashion. I really don’t care if I’m encased in a cagoule because hey, at least I’m dry. Same goes for footwear. I have THE WORST time finding shoes that fit my wide-fit flippers every year. Often, Winter is okay as there are often a massive amount of boots, but waterproof boots? Not so much. In the Summer, sandals are worn in the event of humid weather and hot storms because I find that wellies either cut off my circulation or rub so much because my feet/legs swell in heat.
It’s genuinely so hard to find some that are comfy and which do the job that we need them to. That’s why I decided to have a gander around at some fabulous retailers and see if I could do the hard work for you.
I made the decision to rate each pair of wellies based on four things – leg circumference, style, practicality and affordability. As with any clothing we feature here on She Might Be, it is important that a range is available to our readers of all sizes, so a large leg circumference was a definite necessity in these boots. Practicality looked mostly at those boots which were wide open at the ankle, which to me is just a foot-funnel to collect rain and have you squelching around for the rest of the day. I rated the affordability based on how much I would realistically spend on a pair of wellies, and deducted points from brands who offered cheaper versions of the same wellies to smaller customers. And finally, I looked at style – because I might be somebody who chooses practicality over fashion, but we most definitely have some fashionistas who read She Might Be on the regular. Without further ado – let the Battle of the Wide Fit Wellies commence!
And the winner is… JILEON WIDE FIT WELLIES!
Overall Jileon had the greatest variety of calf sizes, with their range including rear gussets and double side gussets so that they can truly be adjusted to any size. Such greatness does come at a price, though, and Jileon are a super expensive brand. At almost half the cost, Miss Wild Splash Wellies from The Welly Shop had some great options which were super stylish – but didn’t have such a great range of sizes.
I like big pants! My first list was a selection of Spring/Summer styles, so let’s move onto Summer/Autumn styles. Colder weather means layers, and layers mean that I’m not going to ignore areas of my body that I think might not be cold. When I go for layers, I take it very seriously. Here’s a quick selection of my favourites I’ve found while trying to find new ways to wrap up warm.
Welcome to your first Boobs Deserve Better post!
I will be scanning the internet for the worst offenders for putting models in badly fitting bras. #boobsdeservebetter aims to show you what a good fitting bra should look like and how to spot the signs that you’re wearing the wrong size.
I know that some brands are only provided with sample sizes. Personally, I don’t see this as an excuse and it’s a brand’s duty to show women what a well fitted bra should look like to prevent their customers buying the wrong size.
Styled by: ASOS
Models wears size: 34B
This model is certainly, 100% NOT a 34b. She is definitely going to be a size 28 back. See how her hooks are on the tightest set? That means even as a brand new bra it is already too loose on her. They’ve tightened it up to make it look like it fits. Your bra band should be snug straight away and fitted on the loosest set of hooks. That way, as it starts to age you can tighten it up. If your new bra is on the tightest set of hooks and it is still comfortable and doesn’t dig in it generally means you can go down a back size. The gore also doesn’t appear to be sitting flat, which can be another sign of a band being too big.
Not only is her band completely wrong, but so is her cup. Her boobs look to me more of an E cup.
Brand: City Chic
Styled by: ASOS
Model wears size: 36D
Let’s compare the Hunkemoller and City Chic models’ sizes. The first wears the incorrect size 34B, the next is wearing a 36D. The second model is more of what a 34 back looks like. Comparing the two sizes the models are wearing should make it a little clearer how much of a disaster the fitting is. The model in this City Chic bra firstly has her hooks on what looks to be the second loosest set. Secondly, the wires in the bra are sat too far forward. They need to be sat more on the rib area. This is because our breast tissue goes very far back. That jabbing you get from your wires under your armpit? Yep, that’s your breast tissue they’re digging into. Your breast tissue needs to be pulled forward into the cup using the swoop and scoop method. Leaning forward does not work!
Brand: Marks & Spencer
Styled by: Marks & Spencer
Model wears size: 34B
Oh would you look at that, another 34B! Once again, she’s going to be a 28 back and her band is again fitted on the tightest set of hooks. I’d probably say she’s a D or DD cup. It’s harder to tell because her bra is so badly fitted.
Styled by: Simply Be
Model wears size: Unlisted
I worship Elomi. The comfiest bras I’ve ever worn. They specialise in plus size bras, going from a 34 to a 46 and a D to a K cup. So it’s a shame to see the lovely Nina bra looking a little sad on this lovely model. The first thing that jumps out to me is that there is a gap at the bottom of the cup. This can happen and to prevent it you need to “drop” your breast in. To do so, hold onto the flesh just below your cup wire on your ribs. Keeping that still, gently tug on your bra strap and your breast should drop into the cup. if you have gap at the top, either 1. Adjust your straps 2. Consider another style or 3. Go down a cup size if neither help resolve the issue.
The next thing I noticed was that her bra straps seemed quite loose and need adjusting as they look like they may slip off her shoulders. This is actually a common problem that I came across a lot where women had narrow shoulders and had problems with their straps staying put. If it’s not a case of adjusting your bra size, there are some things you can try. Specially designed hooks which create a racer back to give you more support and less chance of your straps slipping, or try a bra where the straps begin further into the bra cup.
And finally, that old chestnut, her band is too big!
Brand: Victoria’s Secret
Stylist: Victoria’s Secret
Model wears size: Unlisted
Perfect example of trapped breast tissue. Victoria’s Secret are notorious for making customers fit their bras rather than their bra’s fit their customers.
Brand: Ann Summers
Styled by: Ann Summers
Model wears size: Unlisted
ARGHHHHHH no. Major breast tissue issues, bra back too loose, wire too far forward, boobs clearly have been squashed into the cups to look like the bra fits. This is a bad one and wins worst fit of the week.
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NYX Cosmetics is a cruelty free brand that launched in 1999. I fell in love with NYX two years ago after stumbling across them on ASOS. After avoiding lipsticks for years, I took the plunge and purchased their Matte Lipstick in the shade Euro Trash when I found out they were also a cruelty free brand.
I am absolutely by no means an aspiring makeup artist, but NYX have made their brand accessible to those (like me) who are still dabbling in breaking away from their usual makeup routine. Even better, their cosmetics are of a quality which definitely feels like it is used by professionals! It’s also well priced, no more expensive than the usual brands you find in Boots, meaning I don’t feel guilty about treating myself to a new lipstick. My entire make up bag is now full of NYX and here are my favourite products!
This is an easy lipstick – by that I mean I can whack it on without really having to concentrate too much and it still looks neat and tidy. I have found myself wearing it everyday and it was a brilliant lipstick to start with as a beginner.
From eye-popping colour to warm neutrals, NYX’s eyeshadow palettes last forever and are excellent value – 16 shades for £16!
I’m starting to really, really love sparkles. I’m 24 but I’m fairly certain my love for glitter was delayed 20 years. These pots of face & body glitter help me to feel that it’s socially acceptable for an adult to be using body glitter when I am not at a festival. The bronze is especially pretty for the Summer time!
I have really awful red areas, and find the minty coloured concealer is perfect for toning them down. It’s pretty heavy duty and won’t shift (unless you’re experiencing a heatwave, then it’s just the one top up at lunch time) and definitely reduces those red patches. It also comes other colour correcting shades as well as a full range of skin tones.
Holy Moly is this stuff magical. It. Just. Does. Not. Smudge. I put it on and it feels a little silky for maybe a half an hour but after that – it stays put! It’s incredible. I have it in two shades, Night Crawler (see pic below) and Side Kick. It can dehydrate your lips a little, so if you’re prone to that make sure to put some Vaseline on the night before.
Just an easy and simple eyebrow pencil and fills in flawlessly while giving you total control. I’ve found some pencils fill and shape as a combo very well. This eyebrow pencil just does the job for you and makes your brow routine half the time it used to be.
A full coverage foundation that’s light and doesn’t upset my dry skin for £6.00 is something I am never letting go of again. Oil free and water based with a matte finish!
Are you a fan of NYX, or the brand is new to you? Let us know who your favourite cruelty free make up brand is, or what your favourite NYX product is in the comments!