Daisy Hollands


Mother. Plus size model. Fat Activist. Diet Industry Dropout.

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Five Things I Want You To Know About Fat Sex

Before we get started with the sex talk, here is a quick key to some of the terms and phrases I’m going to be using during the course of this article.

Sex: any intimate sexual act which takes place between two consenting adults.

Partner: the other person involved in doing the sex with you – I will try to refrain from mentioning genders, and just to add I myself am a fat woman speaking from experience, so this is mainly who this article is going to be aimed at.

Bedroom: this is shorthand for the location where the sex will be taking place. Could just as easily be the kitchen, the living room, the downstairs bathroom, or in a field filled with long grass and  tiny cornflowers, your naked bodies being caressed by the warmth of the sun and the gentle breeze on your skin. But as it’s March, let’s stick with “bedroom” as a catch-all shall we? Good.


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Let’s crack on! Here are the top five things I want you to know about fat sex.

1. Being fat is not a secret. I absolutely promise you that the person you are about to have sex with already knows that you’re fat and they’re fine with it. This will not be brand new information, they will not be shocked or surprised.

2. You don’t need to stress or worry about what your partner thinks of your body. By virtue of the fact that they are in bed with you, about to have sex with you, this proves that they find you incredibly attractive. Chill! They definitely fancy you – as long as you fancy them too, you’re golden!

3. If you’re not completely comfortable being completely naked, please be aware that sexy clothes do come in big sizes or if that’s not your thing, throw on a big tee-shirt – whatever makes you feel at ease. And remember, people of all body shapes and sizes have these feelings. Everyone has a body, get comfortable with yours.

4. There is no wrong way to have a body, there is no wrong way to have sex. Whatever you and your partner want to do, so long as it is consensual is fine. You don’t need anyone’s approval, permission or validation. If you No Strings Dating, do it, just be careful.

5. Perhaps most importantly of all… fat sex is fun! It’s hot and squishy, giggly, soft and warm. Relax. Breathe. You have nothing to prove and everything to gain.


This comes from the heart – life is too short to not have great sex. I’m fat and I have AWESOME sex. Don’t think for one second that your size is an obstacle. Learn to love your body. When you stop caring what other people think, you’ll soon realise that mostly they think you’re amazing!


Think Before You Speak

think before you speak

You know what’s a really cool thing to do? Lifting people’s spirits by paying them a nice (and probably unexpected) compliment. You know what’s less cool? Giving them a compliment that mentions their physical appearance. Why? Because you don’t know how they feel about their body at that moment. You don’t know what private battles or internal monologues they may be dealing with – your compliment could actually cause more harm than good, unless you choose your words carefully.

Imagine the scenario – you’ve bumped into an old friend, one you haven’t seen for a while. She has noticeably lost quite a lot of weight. She doesn’t ever talk about dieting or food related subjects.

You say “Wow! You’ve lost so much weight, you look amazing!” – because you think that’s a nice thing to say.

Let’s put ourselves in her Jimmy Choos for a moment. You’ve struggled for several months with disordered eating. You have a very poor self image and particularly low self esteem. Every day is a battle. You bump into an old friend, one you haven’t seen for a while. She says “Wow! You’ve lost so much weight, you look amazing!” You HEAR “You used to be a right fat cow! Now you’re dieting – keep that up!”

You now think “It’s working it’s working! Maybe I won’t even bother having an apple for lunch today, perhaps I will go without!”

You see? More harm than good.


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Consider that the friend who has lost weight may have done so as the result of a terrible illness, one that she doesn’t feel comfortable talking about – by mentioning and highlighting it you could be forcing her to talk about something which she finds difficult to talk about.

A simple rule of thumb, is don’t mention a person’s weight – ever. Not unless they do so first and invite you to voice your opinion.

Here are the top five compliments you can pay someone, without alluding to their appearance, weight or health – none of which, by the way, are any of your damned business!

  1. You’re awesome – the best people always are.
  2. You are such an inspiration to me. I wish I was more like you.
  3. I love your sense of humour. You’re so much fun to be around.
  4. You’re a brilliant friend, you’re so kind and caring.
  5. You’re so wise, you always give great advice.


And on the flip side – learn how to take a compliment! It can be hard to do at first, but just smile and say “thank you” – that’s all it takes – don’t try to brush it off or shy away from the fact that someone said something nice about you.

After all, you ARE awesome!



Why We Don’t Want An Award

The team at She Might Be were delighted to learn that we have been nominated for a Style XL award, in the Best Plus Size Publication category.

Given that we’ve only been in existence since mid September, we are amazed and thrilled that some of our readers took the time to nominate us and we thank you all for your support.

However, we’ve decided collectively to pull out of the running before the voting starts. Our party line on awards and award ceremonies is that we’re definitely not here to compete. There is room for all of us. We don’t agree with anyone being made to feel less or not worthy because they didn’t get the most votes. We don’t want to be up against anyone or encourage people to go head to head. If we all stand together and support each other, we are all winners in our own right.

We are very happy to have made such an impact and impression in such a short space of time and we will strive to continue to help our readers enjoy the lives they live and the bodies they live in.


She Might Be – Now and Next

Well, it’s been quite the ride! This is the 102nd post on She Might Be – at least one a day since we launched back in September. I thought I would take this opportunity to take a look back over the first few months of She Might Be and a look ahead to what we have in store for you for 2017, before we sign off for a much needed Christmas break!

So to start with, here are a few stats for you – we’ve written over one hundred posts, on everything from reclaiming the word fat to a series on plus size women in history, a sprinkling of beauty, a myriad of fashion and everything in between. We really do have something for everyone – a recently launched men’s section, opinion pieces, interviews, style guides and the best bit? All of it body positive. We will never make you feel less than your worth.

We’ve used twenty-one different writers, all of us different ages, sizes and shapes. We are spread out all over the country and we all have very different styles, but the one common denominator is we all have plenty to say! How about you? Do you have lots to say? We want to hear it! We are always on the lookout for more writers, so drop us a message and get involved. Conversely, if you have an idea for something you would like to see covered by the team, the drop us a line about that too.

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Across our 4 social media pages, Twitter, Facebook, Instagram and Bloglovin, we now have over 4030 followers.

In 102 days we have had over 32,000 views on She Might Be.

The top 5 countries that read our website are the UK, US, Australia, Germany and Canada.

The top 5 posts on She Might Be are:

The Problem with Problem Areas
How I Learnt To Stop Panic Shopping Plus Size Clothes
Body Confidence
Photography and the Plus Size Body
I Am All Woman Too


So that’s where we are and what we have done so far. What can you expect in 2017? We have lots lined up for you. Interviews with some of the leading lights in the body positivity movement. An in depth look into the plus size beauty pageant industry. All the latest style, fashion and beauty trends!

Have an amazing Christmas and a happy new year from all of us at She Might Be!




She Might Be Spotlight: Georgina Grogan

Georgina Grogan
Where do you live?
What do you do for a living?
Freelance Social Media Manager/Blogger
How long have you been blogging?
3+ years
What made you start blogging?
I was having a gap year and working 2 shifts a week which meant I was incredibly bored with a lot of free time and not a very happy person. I started blogging and my life changed completely.
Georgina Grogan
Georgina Grogan
Who do you admire in the blogging world?
Most bloggers to be honest, it’s an incredibly hard thing to keep up with a hobby or turn a hobby into a career so I have so much respect for the blogging world. I especially love the SMB team, most have full time jobs, kids, partners, their own blogs and they still have time to create amazing content for this website.
What’s your favourite post on your blog?
Probably my help posts, like SEO for Bloggers, or Bloggers Working for Exposure. I like talking about the good and bad parts of blogging and other people seem to like that too!
Show us a favourite outfit?
What did you want to be when you grew up?
First it was a Lawyer and then I realised that I didn’t like Law in college, and then I changed to an English Teacher before taking the gap year and then eventually declining my place at University.
Do you have any pets?
I have a 15+ year old cat called Gypsy and she’s tiny.
What does She Might Be mean to you?
It’s a dream that finally came true for me, I’ve wanted to create this website for years. She Might Be has a very empowering message for me, ‘she might be’ whatever and whoever she wants to be. Obviously as well as being on brand, I can finally say I don’t regret calling my blog She Might Be Loved anymore!
Find Georgina on:
Twitter @GeorginaGrogan_
Instagram @GeorginaGrogan_
Facebook She Might Be Loved

Social Media – brands sort it out!

I have been wanting to write this post for a long time.  All of this year and most of last. I am beyond sick of brands – and in particular, ones that cater for plus size customers – all over social media, shaming, being offensive and (worst of all in my book) – repeat offending and then not apologising when they are called on their nonsense.

Let me make one thing clear – I am not adverse to naming and shaming. One look at my Twitter feed will tell you that. I call people out on body-shaming whenever I see it. I don’t care WHO you are or how big your brand is, if I see you fat-shaming or skinny-shaming, I am going to have something to say about it. BUT – I will not be naming names in this article. Not because I want to be coy or mysterious, not because I am scared the brands concerned might not want to work with me (Ha! I wouldn’t want to work with them!)-no. Simply put, I refuse to give them any sort of publicity. Even bad press is still publicity and they don’t deserve a millisecond of your attention, far less your hard earned cash!

Also, She Might Be is a body positive publication – we in no way want to be promoting anyone with a negative record. With that in mind, let’s get started.

So today, a sponsored advert appeared on my Facebook timeline, from an apparently new designer, bearing the words “we are proud to design clothes for Real Women. For You”.

For “Real Women” ? Seriously? So who are you alluding to here that may NOT be a real woman? Because – NEWSFLASH – anyone who identifies as a real woman IS a real woman, it is not the job of a brand to decide who a real woman is – get over yourselves! And furthermore, if you are such a champion of “Real Women” (and sorry, I have no idea what you are trying to achieve with the random capitalization there)  – why are you advertising your clothes literally on a coat hanger?! And the models on your page all seem straight sized, yet you are calling out other brands for not working with Ashley Graham, when your own range at first glance appears to stop at size 20? Please.

Social Media

That’s before we go into the brands who keep on posting memes containing fat jokes, making pointed remarks about eating habits, questionable comments about health and still think plus sized people are going to want to buy from you? Nope. I will take my fat pounds somewhere that doesn’t think I’m a joke, thanks.

And by the way, I am well aware that there are people behind the social media accounts and people are flawed, all of us, and mistakes can be made. Once. When it keeps happening, and we keep raising it with you, and you keep doing it – well that tells us all we need to know really.

Then there are the brands that have turned insulting their customers into an art form. I am thinking of one brand in particular here and could give you many, many examples. Suffice to say, when a regular customer emails in a polite query regarding the quality of an item she has purchased from you (one of many items), it’s not cool (and definitely not polite) to reply suggesting maybe she needs to buy a bigger size or get some shapewear! GUESS WHO’S NEVER SHOPPING THERE AGAIN?

I wrote this tweet right at the start of 2016 – not long after I received that email, and after we had had brand after brand messing up and posting insulting, shaming things every day for a week. I left it pinned to the top of my Twitter page, envisaging it would stay there for a couple of weeks, until the crazy died down (the festive season seems to bring out the absolute worst in some people). It’s still there. Every time I think I might swap it out for a different tweet, another brand messes up. Sometimes, not for the first time.

If you can’t be trusted with your own Social Media accounts, get yourself a Social media Manager – ask us for details, we know several really good, competent ones, who would enhance, not destroy your business. Use your Social Media as a force for good, engage with us, talk to us – find out what will make us willingly hand over yet more money to you. Don’t use it as a stick to beat us – we’re fat, we’re not idiots and we’re no longer prepared to be your punchline or your punchbag.

Because in case you hadn’t noticed, we vote with our feet – so maybe take YOUR feet out of your mouth and think about what you are saying, before you alienate all of your customer base.


She Might Be Spotlight: Vixen Curves

Thank you Vicky-Lou – awesome to talk to you and to get the low down on your amazing products.
Don’t forget you can save 10% when you check out at Vixen Curves, by using the discount code SMBVIXEN – it’s a great excuse to take a leap and try out these awesome items!
You can also follow Vixen Curves on Instagram and Twitter, to keep updated with all their hot new releases.

Why We Created She Might Be

Why We Created She Might Be

Just a handful of the SMB team


I think I can speak for pretty much everyone involved with She Might Be, when I say that yes, of course we all wanted to be part of this amazing online plus size magazine. All the latest fashion and beauty, amazing body positivity, fat politics and a range of issues and ideas that are so very relevant to each and every one of us.

But more than this, I think we all felt that this was needed.  There is literally nowhere, either online or in the real world (and yes, for a lot of people the internet is the real world) where plus size women are allowed to be at ease in their own skin.

We needed a safe space. Where no one would try and sell you happiness by dragging you down in the first place. Where it is okay – more than okay – celebrated – to be who you are and to exist in your body.


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It’s hard enough to love yourself when the whole world is intent on telling you that you are wrong for doing so – we will only ever support you in your journey to self acceptance and hopefully self love.

This is a very safe space. Apart from right here in this list of things we won’t do, you will never see us talking about diets, about food, about health & exercise, about shape wear, about flattering, about changing anything about yourself for the sake of someone else’s opinion. (Change on your own terms is a different matter entirely).

We believe all of that is your prerogative, your choice because that’s your body and this is your life. We know only too well how insidious these things are, when they pop up everywhere – billboards, magazines, TV ads – even amongst friends, family and colleagues. We are constantly under siege – bombarded.

You have been conditioned to think there is something wrong with you – or maybe, that there is something wrong with thinner women, who make different choices. It seems like the entire world is hating on womens’ bodies and here is where it stops.

Here are some thoughts from some of our writers on why She Might Be is important to them:

Georgina Grogan: I really feel that She Might Be, a completely body positive space, is SO needed on the internet. There are lots of magazine, blogs, spaces on the internet for fat women, but I can’t name one of them that hasn’t talked about making yourself look slimmer, dieting, weight loss, or something else that contributes to the hate women and men have for themselves. Despite being mainly plus size, we would never bash a straight size person.

Sera McDaid: I think She Might Be was a space desperately needed to encourage women of all sizes to come together. As someone who has been a size 32 to a size 12 and now a 16 and just about every size in between, I’ve always felt I was wrong or not represented. At the smaller scale at a 16 I feel vilified sometimes if I chat about plus size and when I was a size 32 I wasn’t catered for or represented online at all. It also promotes real life body shapes, which I think is important. Basically it’s a space where nobody is left out or excluded. I love that. I do think it’s a good move to ban talk of diets or eating plans. There is enough of that everywhere you turn. The USP of SMB is that it focuses solely on everything else and your size doesn’t come into it. Hugely positive area. It was needed I think. Size has nothing to do with anything and it’s a huge positive move forward to create a space that is active in showing exactly that and showing it by omission. Size doesn’t need to be debated, it’s simply your body. I think it’s a powerful point made by not making it.

Sophie Griffiths: The media makes plenty of money out of telling women to hate themselves – and that is not a plus exclusive issue. You can look on any magazine rack and be criticised on a personal level while picking other ladies apart. SMB is different. It’s about self love, not self hate. There is no need to talk about diets or numbers because there are so many places that are just FOR that, which means there is no risk of anybody being hurt by those kinds of conversations. Being able to maintain that difference while supporting others on every stage of their journey to body positivity (and that includes those still intent on changing, not loving, themselves) is really quite special.

Katt Martin: SMB for me, is finally that safe space filled with true body positivity. Where I won’t be hounded by images that put others down to raise ourselves, where I don’t have to worry about an article or person writing about how my body isn’t good enough or that I need to change to be TRULY happy, where I know every writer there has gone through everything I have gone through, that it’s full of sisterhood and love. And that’s why SMB is so important, to spread the word that you’re loved, your body is good enough, you life is good enough and you don’t have to change a single thing if you don’t want to. It’s that safe space for all plus size women and men, where they can go to finally relax away from a world that shoves diets, how to “flatter” or “disguise” their so- called flaws, down their throats and just be happy!

Zoe IKIWN: To be fair, you can go literally ANYWHERE ELSE to see, hear, experience talk about diets / weight loss / slimming etc and to know there is somewhere you can read about fashion, beauty and lifestyle (even the odd bit of history!) without having to keep your guard up is a bloody relief!

That’s why we are here. This is a safe space where we can all be ourselves – we are all entitled to live happily in our own skin. She Might Be will never make anyone feel like that’s not enough. We are all enough.