Mother. Plus size model. Fat Activist. Diet Industry Dropout.
Mother. Plus size model. Fat Activist. Diet Industry Dropout.
Who likes a little flutter every now and then? The occasional bet on the Grand National maybe? A lottery ticket or scratchcard here and there? Everyone likes the chance to win a bit of extra cash, especially with Christmas coming up. We have already talked about lottery tickets and ways to save money. Now we have a question for you…
Have you ever played bingo? It can be a great fun night out – picture it – all your mates with you, a few drinks, perhaps a bite to eat and the chance to win a few quid back? Sounds like fun, right? What if I told you you could get the same result staying home in your PJs with one eye on The X Factor, and not have to worry about trying to get a taxi back at 10pm in the rain?
I know – even better! Online bingo games are the way forward. But it’s literally a maze. Daytime TV shows are often sponsored by online bingo sites, I don’tknow if you have ever noticed that, but there are loads of them. How do you now which the good ones are? Which ones have the biggest prizes? Which are best for you?
Worry not – help is at hand! You are just a few clicks away from finding out which sites have the best deals and what kind of opening offers are available for new players. Choose wisely and you could find your Christmas shopping paid for, or the funds for those new boots that you have had your eye on, while enjoying an entertaining evening in and not even caring if your eyebrows are on fleek!
There are certain things to bear in mind – not every game you play will result in a win, so never gamble more than you can afford to spend and osme sites will have a wait period before you can withdraw your winnings – so you may have to wait just a little while longer for the boots. With all that in mind, sit back, get the kettle on and let’s see if Lady Luck is smiling at us today!
Who doesn’t need more money? I mean, really – there is always a bill that needs paying, or some new must-have make-up range being released. And hey, Christmas is just around the corner – that just about obliterates everyone’s finances, so we start the New Year with nothing – or worse – less than nothing!
Today, we’re going to look at different ways of making money, saving money and getting the most out of your money … this time next year, we could all be millionaires!
The first step in working out how you can save money, is finding out where your money actually goes. Start tracking your spending. Every single penny needs to be accounted for. You can do this in a variety of ways – a notebook is the simplest one, just jot down every purchase you make. Be brutally honest – sometimes this will be hard going, reading back your habits, but do it and do it properly.
You could go one stage further and create a spreadsheet, if spreadsheets are your thing – they’re not mine, but some of the She Might be team LIVE for spreadsheets… don’t they Sophie??? For those of you that like planners or bullet journals, how about a spending tracker? Plus point for this is, you can customise it any way you want, tailored to suit your own personal needs.
Just the essentials. Food. Household bills. Travel expenses – which, by the way, do not include that takeaway coffee and artisan croissant that you grab as you dash through the station every morning. That’s not a “need”, that’s a “nice to have”. You know what’s nicer to have? A healthy bank balance and less stress about debts. Choose wisely. Is it cheaper to take sandwiches to work than to grab lunch from a supermarket or a works’ canteen? I’m a big fan of taking left-over dinner for the next day’s lunch – second day lasagne is mighty fine, and preferable to a limp sandwich that probably cost four times as much, from a garage forecourt on the way into work.
There are a whole raft of online sites now that will help you save while you spend – from member discounts, to actual cashback and flash sales, special offers, if you sign up for a few, you can watch the rewards roll in. I would not consider switching my insurance or utilities provider now, without surfing through the cashback sites to see which is going to give me the best deal. There are apps that you can use to compare prices in seconds – always worth checking! Try out voucher code sites like dealsdaddy or dealsqueen for more saving on your online order.
We all have too much stuff. It’s a modern day curse. But one person’s junk is another person’s treasure and there are a myriad of ways to decrease your clutter and increase your bank balance. Just pop the name of your town and the word “sales” into any social media search engine and see how many selling pages are available. Stop – don’t look too closely, you are selling, not buying, remember! These sites are ideal – people will come and collect your unwanted stuff and you will have the cold hard cash in your hand, without having to go to the bother of posting it out.
It is always worth spending time searching online for the best possible deals. Can you transfer the balance from your credit card to a 0% interest card? The amount you are saving in interest will help you clear the debt quicker. If you need some money in a hurry – and we all have those unexpected emergencies – you might want to consider a consolidation loan, or a short-term loan – there are lots of places now that specialise in loans for bad credit. Check the small print and work out what is affordable for you.
Are you a whizz with a sewing machine? People are always on the look out for dressmakers to do clothing alterations, or to make curtains. What can you do in the time available to you? A bit of weeding and lawn-mowing at the weekends? I would pay someone to do that! Ironing? Dog walking? Baby sitting? Maybe you love crafting or photography – there are several handmade sites where you can sell all things that you are currently creating just for fun.
Don’t work harder, work smarter – make your hobby work for you and it won’t even feel like work!
Challenge yourself and see how good you can make your bank balance look come January 1st.
So, what’s your favourite social media space? Me, I love Twitter. Facebook makes you hate the friends you already have, Twitter makes you fall in love with people you’ve never met. Twitter makes you want to buy drinks for people. Facebook makes you want to throw drinks at them. I could go on, but you get the idea…
Maybe it’s the character limit. Perhaps 140 letters is just not enough time to reveal yourself as a total arse? I don’t know. But anyway, I digress – I love Twitter. When I was a kid, I had multiple penfriends and lived for the letters we would exchange. In a way, Twitter is exactly like that, only shorter and quicker. Micro updates throughout the day, straight to my phone.
One of the ways I like to preserve and protect my mental health is by filling my social media with like minded souls, so when the bad days come, there are still these little beams of positivity bursting in through the dark clouds. Reinforcement and validation for the times I’m just not feeling it.
Sounds good right? You want some of that for yourself? Great! If you don’t already have one, sign up for a Twitter account and let’s get following!
Jes Baker – activist, speaker, author and all round awesomeness. Jes is honest and open and what she doesn’t know (and share) about living in a fat body, isn’t worth knowing.
I ABSOLUTELY LOVE seeing fat people hanging out in public- taking up space, enjoying themselves and living their best lives <3
— The Militant Baker (@militant_baker) 30 July 2017
Alysse Dalessandro – plus size fashion blogger turned wildly successful designer. Alysse makes clothes that are beyond fabulous and uses genuine plus bodies to model them.
— Alysse Dalessandro (@readytostare) 11 July 2017
“Your fat friend” – apologies, I don’t know her real name – shares her wisdom on Twitter and at length on Medium. Asking the hard questions on Twitter, she finds a way of putting our fat feelings into words, so non-fats can learn better how to support us.
— your fat friend (@yrfatfriend) 28 July 2017
Amazing family owned business, fronted by Perelandra & Nicky, not only do they have their exclusive, inclusive designs, bringing fashion for all (and I do mean all), but their Twitter feed is a thing of beauty. Positive, uplifting and the biggest “Just do you” ever. Another brand that features real plus sized customers wearing their clothes – we love that!
Accept your magic 💫🌙🔮 pic.twitter.com/4hXg9iAPxb
— Nicky Rockets (@nickyrockets) 5 August 2017
Baker, author and model, Ruby shot to fame in 2013 when she appeared on The Great British Bake Off. Speaking openly about her battle with eating disorders and campaigning for a sea-change in attitudes towards food, Ruby’s razor sharp wit and searing honesty make her Twitter feed one to watch.
you can’t reduce food to numbers on a weighing scale, you can’t equate health with diet, you can’t judge wellbeing from body size or shape
— Ruby Tandoh (@rubytandoh) 12 June 2017
Melissa A Fabello is an important voice, speaking loud and clear on body image, feminism and sexuality.
Every time I look in the mirror and think “I could do x about y,” I add “and hate my life” to the end. Then I snap out of it.
— Melissa A. Fabello (@fyeahmfabello) 4 August 2017
Michelle Elman, activist and coach is an emerging star on the BoPo scene. Her #scarrednotscared campaign is gathering ground and her message is really important.
FAT WOMEN ARE NOT EASIER.
They aren’t easier to “get” or easier to “keep”.
So can you shove your outdated beliefs up your arse. Please.
— Michelle Elman (@ScarredNtScared) 4 August 2017
Judi Craddock, another amazing coach, keeps her Twitter feed positive with her strategies for better body confidence. I happen to know that Judi is currently writing a book,and I can’t wait for that to be released.
— Judi Craddock (@heartyourbodyuk) 4 August 2017
Nathanael Lark is an artist, living in Los Angeles. His drawings are cute and sexy and he truly sees the beauty in everyone. He only has a small following in Twitter, but has over 40k followers on Instagram.
— Nathanael Lark (@NathanaelLark) 11 August 2016
So that’s ten super awesome Twitter accounts for you to follow. But before I go, I just want to check…are you following US on Twitter?? If not, why not? You’re missing out!
Our fab writers (she said modestly) all log int0 our She Might Be Twitter account, so we can share all the latest in body positivity news and keep you all up to date with what we have planned. It’s probably the fastest way to get hold of us and we’re also on Facebook and Instagram. Are you following us there too?
Did you know that a pledge of $1 per month from each reader could transform the way this magazine runs? https://t.co/AyKqDEh2U1?amp=1
— SheMightBe Magazine (@SheMightBeMag) August 4, 2017
All our writers have their Twitter links in our bios, so you can follow us all individually too! Happy tweeting!
My partner and I are terrible in bed. Get your minds out of the gutter – I don’t mean like that! But we are complete opposites when it comes to the perfect night’s sleep. My favourite is when we visit his Mum and get to drift off into the magical world of memory foam at night, whereas sometimes he literally sleeps on the floor because everything is too soft for him. When BedGuru got in touch, I was intrigued – could this be the end of a decade of alternating poor sleep? Before diving in to making a purchase, I thought it would be fun to take their #CouplesQuiz and join in the campaign to promote their mattresses specifically aimed at couples.
How did you meet?
Seven years ago, I met a guy on Twitter. He didn’t even have a picture of himself as his icon, and he mostly dedicated the account to winding up celebrities and playing hashtag games. We began direct messaging, and then sending texts, and then talking on the phone for eight hours a day and the rest is history!
How long have you two known eachother?
We have known each other for around seven and a half years. Though we didn’t physically meet up until March 2010.
What do you do to keep the love alive?
After almost a decade together, it can be hard! Being kind and appreciative of each other is top priority. Compromising and making a point of acknowledging each other’s hard work. And we make each other laugh every day, which helps.
What are your partner’s pet peeves?
We kind of share the same pet peeves – we can’t tolerate idiots at all! Slow people in the supermarket, people who don’t indicate when they’re driving, kids who don’t pick up after themselves… Pretty normal married couple pet peeves! He also gets frustrated when I steal all the covers – but then throw them onto the floor when I don’t want them anymore! And I get annoyed that we have to flip the mattress every week because it’s never quite comfy enough.
What do you love most about eachother?
We definitely love each other’s sense of humour. I always say that we don’t have to laugh all day every day, but as long as we laugh every day we are fine.
What is the most memorable gift you have received from your partner?
Would it be too corny to say my kids? Oh, and my engagement ring of course.
What is your favourite memory as a couple?
Our favourite memories are the tiny meaningless ones that make absolutely no sense to anybody else, but will crack us up every time we remember them. Inside jokes like ‘why is there countryside?’ seems like nothing, but is guaranteed to send us back in time with a good old giggle every time.
What is the most key component of your relationship?
Our family are very insistent that we are a team. It is important that we always know we are on the same side.
Where is your dream destination for a couples holiday?
We are desperate to go to the Maldives! Who wouldn’t want to lounge around in paradise for a fortnight?!
What are your favourite things to do as a couple?
It is very very rare that we have a day to ourselves with neither of our kids around. If we did, we would probably wander around some charity shops, go for a nice lunch somewhere and then go home and lounge around in bed watching movies.
It’s funny how we can be so compatible in some ways, but when it comes to sleep we are completely incompatible. BedGuru believes that everybody should get a good night’s sleep, so I was totally stoked to make this post before heading off to explore their range of couples mattresses myself!
As Spring slides effortlessly into Summer, we thought we’d take a look at what’s hot in the beauty stakes right now.
Red lipstick, usually the stalwart of everyone’s Winter wardrobe is making a special guest appearance this summer and I couldn’t be happier. I love a statement lip and it’s the perfect accompaniment to all the florals filling the racks and rails at the moment. Glossy colours are big news this summer and on some of the catwalks, nude colours and clear gloss were featured prominently, so if redder than red isn’t your thing, you can still stay on trend
There’s nothing like like a smear of highlighter across the cheekbones, for catching those rays and making you sparkle and gleam. It’s a look that will see you through the summer nights too, glitzing up everyone’s summer balls and barbecues. Of course, highlighter is not just for cheekbones – dab it everywhere the sun catches you, for a lovely summery sun-kissed dewy look.
Following hot on highlighter’s heels, it seems that glitter is big for 2017. Once upon a time glitter was considered something of an “after dark” accessory, but more and more we’re seeing fashionistas in broad daylight with glitter lips or slick glitter eye liner. (And sometimes both! Love it!) A cut crease with glitter eyeliner is a thing of beauty, keeping the mermaid/unicorn trends right at the forefront of fashion.
The beauty counters and nail bars are filled with really bright colours, very reminiscent of the 80s, all primary colours and nearly neons. If you’re treating yourself to nails for your holiday, you should ask your nail technician to see the shellac CND from Ellisons range. Beautiful, durable colours in every shade imaginable – match them to your makeup or your swimwear!
We’re aware of the damage heat can cause to our hair, that’s why there are many heat protection sprays and lotions to use before styling with straighteners or tongs, but what about the heat from the sun? Should we be protecting our hair against natural heat? Yes we absolutely should and there are an array of products that will protect your hair from harmful UV rays, while also hydrating your scalp. Bonus feature, they also smell amazing.
Jump into the comments and tell us about the trends you’re loving this summer!
Recently, on a fairly substantial road trip, my partner Phil and I were listening to a commercial radio station – that’s not me being coy, I’ve been to bed and asleep since then and I genuinely can’t remember the name of it. Anyway, that doesn’t matter, we were enjoying the tunes and being irritated at not winning the hourly competition (£500 prize and we entered at least three times! I’m sure it was a fix! One of the people that did win sounded like the DJ putting on a voice and talking to herself!).
They seemed to be playing the same three adverts on repeat too (also annoying!), one of which began by posing the question “what price would you put on your hearing?” While the advert didn’t really do a good job on us because neither of us rushed out to book hearing tests when we got home, it did spark a lively debate about the value of things that money can’t actually buy.
I don’t know how the topic changed from hearing to hair, (our conversations are very eclectic and we often go off on a tangent… I almost typed “we often go off on a tandem” there. We don’t. That would have been a lie!), but Phil asked a question that I really had to stop and think about.
“If someone wanted to ‘buy your hair’, so you had to shave it all off, what’s the minimum amount of money you would accept?”
It was an interesting question and before I decided upon my answer, I needed to ask a few questions myself, to ascertain the conditions (quite apart from “who on earth would even want to do that?!”) – would my hair grow back? Do I have to stay bald while my hair grows back or can I wear wigs and hats or headscarves or maybe even get a hair transplant? Are there restrictions on what I can do with the money? Is it mine to keep even after my hair grows back?
It wasn’t an easy decision. My hair is pretty much my favourite feature. I am very precious about it. I know that usually, no matter how nicely I do my hair, within ten minutes of leaving the house, I look like I’ve just stumbled up an embankment after a derailment, but the thing is, my hair has great potential. In someone else’s hands, it can look amazing.
We talked about women with shaved heads in general. Two close friends in recent years have Braved The Shave in aid of cancer charities and they both looked striking without hair. A number of high profile actresses have also reached for the razor for specific roles, sending the media into a frenzy, the latest being Cara Delevingne.
After much thought and discussion, I decided that I would be prepared to “sell my hair” for the princely (princessly??) sum of fifty thousand pounds. Well, I had to make it worth my while…
All those hats and wigs won’t come cheap before we even get started on the hair transplant cost. Plus I always said if I ever had an unexpected windfall, I would like to donate a sizeable sum to charity. When you are hypothetically coming into a sum of money, you can afford to be magnanimous without appearing greedy. And after all, it’s only hair, right?
Phil then posed another thought provoking question – “Ok, so you have shaved your head and got your £50k … how much will you pay to get your hair back?”
That, to me was an even more interesting question that the original and I did mull it over for quite some time. I love my hair, I really do… but now I have a LOT of money and I’m not entirely sure I want to part with it. After all, some people change their hairstyle frequently and love to ring the changes. That said, I’m not one of them, I have had more or less the same hairstyle for twenty odd years, aside from a brief foray into hair modelling, which saw my waist length hair chopped and replaced with a shoulder length bob. I was devastated. (I was hiding my feelings in this picture!)
It’s only hair?!! NO! It’s so much more than that. I felt like I had lost an integral part of me, of who I was and how I looked. My hair has never grown back to its former glory, despite my best efforts.
Nowadays my biggest hair decisions are basically “fringe or no fringe?” and “can I be bothered to do my roots this weekend?” Maybe it IS “only hair” after all – or maybe I have come to realise that I am more than just my looks.
With this in mind, (and to get on with getting off this tandem and answering the question) I opted to hand back between five and ten thousand pounds from my original fifty grand. I figured I would have my hair and still make good use of the balance. (Come on, I’m blonde and I like having nice hair, but I’m not an idiot!)
Hair, it seems is such a personal thing – such a huge part of our identity – some religions cover it up, others shave it off. It’s said that when women have big life changes, they sometimes make dramatic changes to their hairstyle to reflect this or as a statement of sorts. Think Britney Spears. When her personal life was going into meltdown and she was being pursued relentlessly by the paparazzi, at the hairdressers, she snatched up the clippers and shaved her own head in front of the photographers.
I’m of course not suggesting that such a drastic change is the way forward for everyone, but sometimes even a subtle change is enough to change your whole outlook. I can’t offer you fifty thousand pounds for a haircut, mind!
By the way, while this might sound like a lighthearted, frivolous conversation (it was just an interesting way to brighten up a long car journey) I am aware that hair loss is an emotive and sensitive issue, and I wouldn’t want anyone to feel like we were poking fun. I know it’s no laughing matter.
Much to my utter delight, my Twitter timeline was filled with glorious images of glossy magazine covers, mocked up to feature fabulous fat women, some of them models, some of them bloggers, all looking amazing.
Here’s the thing…at first I didn’t read the accompanying tweets. My eyes were drawn only to the incredible, beautiful images, so well done that to begin with, I didn’t realise they were fake. Look at those pictures. Really look at them. Study them. Marvel at how normal it is to see a beautiful woman on the cover of a glossy magazine. Now ask yourself why this isn’t the norm.
Navabi tweeted about the magazine covers, “They’re our way of imagining a different future for the mainstream media.”
As you all know, I am very quick to shout about brands getting it wrong. In fact my very next post is going to be a callout on brands that use body shaming memes and in doing so, get it spectacularly wrong.
BUT I am all about fairness and balance so I’m only to happy to tell you that Navabi, this time are absolutely bang on! This campaign is everything!
We do need to see fat bodies in glossy magazines. All bodies should be represented – that’s the true meaning of inclusion and diversity.
Navabi, with just the use of sublime Photoshop skills have proved how easy and natural it is to feature stunning plus sizes women as cover stars and we love them for it.
#MorePlusPlease is all about making plus size more visible, more mainstream, more normal. As Navabi said today, “Over 50% of women are plus size, so why are magazine covers like these the stuff of dreams?”
Get on board #MorePlusPlease – share the images far and wide. Let the media and other brands know that plus women are crying out for more and better representation. We want to see women that look like us EVERYWHERE – because we are everywhere.
Alright, who here doesn’t know who Stephanie Yeboah is?
Let me fill you in. Stephanie is the super-talented, sassy, gorgeous writer who created Nerd About Town – she is all kinds of amazing and we here at She Might be think she absolutely rocks – here’s why…
She kicks ass, she doesn’t ass-kiss.
Steph is opinionated. And vocal. She tells it how it is. And here’s the thing – she doesn’t suck up to brands, PRs or bloggers in the hope of collaboration or opportunities. Although she has worked with a list of brands as long as your arm, Steph doesn’t hesitate to call them out when they get things wrong. Sometimes it seems like her’s is the lone voice in a sea of chattering agreement, but she is still not afraid to speak out. We respect that.
She would make a bin-bag look like high fashion.
I have never seen Stephanie wearing ANYTHING that doesn’t look good. Fact. Her personal style is flawless – whatever she wears, she looks effortlessly classy and stylish. Her fashion sense is second to none. Her makeup is always on point and her hair is gorgeous. Stephanie is the very definition of fierce.
She writes with raw honesty.
Steph writes from the heart. If you read her blog (and if you haven’t, you should – there’s a link near the start and I will add one at the end for your convenience too) you will soon feel like you know Steph personally – she puts something of herself into every post. Particularly the posts to be found in the “thoughts” section. This one, Dear Body – I’m Sorry is a personal favourite, but there are many more.
She wins at photographs.
It was pretty difficult choosing photos to accompany this piece, because whether Stephanie is behind or in front of the camera, the images produced are amazing. She really knows how to put an eye catching shot together – the composition, the colours – it all just works. Take a look at the Street Photography section on Steph’s blog – you really wouldn’t know those weren’t images shot by a professional photographer.
Steph is such an important voice in this community and an incredible role model, we have so much love and appreciation for her.